My husband goes out every weekend except on Sundays and he gets home around 3am every time. My question is, how do I talk to him about how that makes me feel about him coming home so late and spending so much time with his friends instead of at home with me? I don't want to appear that I"m tellin him what to do or becoming jealous but I want him to spend time with me and friends sometime. I find myself gettin pissed when he goes out with his friends and return home late at night. (Note: I don't need sarcism right now, I need someone to be straight with me, please!!!)
2006-10-27 14:44:07 · 7 answers · asked by jetta 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try a compromise--a lot of guys respond better to that than a demand. Like, if he would promise to go out every other Saturday and spend every other Saturday with you.
2006-10-27 14:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that wanting your husband to spend time with you is being "Controlling". I would say that you have been very understanding this far. Maybe ask him how he would feel if you went out with your "Friends" every weekend and came home at 3 am? Would that be okay? He needs a wake up call and to get his priorities in order.
That is not saying that he can not have some time with his friends.....just as you should have that time too but lets be a little more grown up and act as a couple. Do you have friends that you BOTH could go out with on the weekends....you know other couples?
I really think you need to talk to him about this...its not normal or health for a marriage.
Best of luck...and hang in there...maybe he will grow up soon *S*
2006-10-27 21:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband goes out every weekend without you? That is not right. An occasional (once a month) guys night out is totally reasonable. BUT every weekend? YES you should say something. You didn't get married to spend your life alone. Damn. You can one of two ways - give him a taste of his own medicine (ok games are not the best option, but you know how he will react seeing you all dolled up and headed out on the town without him), or two, actually you should do this regardless - schedule a marriage counseling session. He needs to hear from an outside party that this is not a healthy habit, nor how a hubby should be.
2006-10-27 21:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to express to him exactly how you feel. You are not being controlling. He is your husband and his place is at home with you. Why does he have to go out every weekend? That is absurd. When he got married, he took vowels that put you first. It's time he started living up to them. He is a married man for goodness sake. Those days are over. He has more than himself to consider now. And of course, no one is saying that he can't go out...just not every weekend. That's being fair and respectable. Demand that respect. If you don't speak up it will continue and you will spend your time being mad, bitter, and full of doubt. Don't allow him to put you through that. Life is too short. Spend it being happy and in love. Good luck, sweetie.
2006-10-27 21:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i have no idea WHY you are with a man like that.... sh!t i have mine trained like a lab. Thats crazy i would kick my husband in his testicles every second if he treated me like that.. You know sweety, not ALL men would do that to their girl,, he is most like at strip clubs or talking to other whorish women at the bar, its not like he is "just hangin out with his guy friends" i could understand like maybe once every now and again and i mean NOW AND AGAIN... but not like that.. you need to find yourself someone new, or if you dont want to , find yourself a man on the side to keep you occupied, girl you know he is not just being honest and true, maybe not sleeping around, but other women are whores and they are definatly dancing nasty with your guy and what not... so,,, id say, STOP, this is getting old, and if hes like F , U, then find another one and move on... i cant belive you put up with this crap.
2006-10-27 21:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well how do u kno he's really out with his friends, he cud b out cheating
2006-10-27 21:48:26 · answer #6 · answered by jasmacky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with him, babe!
2006-10-27 21:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋