My ex wife has custody of my son. He has been having behavior problems the entire time she has had him. When I have him for visitation he shows so much improvement that when he goes back, his mother has said "what did you do with my little boy". My son has recently been removed from first grade because of complete disturbance of the school; he runs out of the classroom, hurts himself by stratching his face and punching his head to name a few, has even called the teachers the *itch word before. I'm really losing patients with watching his life being ruined by his mother. What can I do????????????????
2006-10-27 14:44:06 · 6 answers · asked by falcon465 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get that child some help...i don't no your situation but that child needs help you are his father you can get it for him if she refuses then you have to take more desperate measures.there are child services out there to help you ,,even the school he goes to ....its not all his mothers fault you two have to work together to help your son..find out whats going threw his little mind....he is to Young to feel the way he feels ---are you there yet?///
2006-10-27 15:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by pantherblack05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea something approximately Illinois legislation, however, while I went via this style of factor, the daddy needed to turn out the mum used to be undeserving or the kids have been being harmed in a few tangible manner. I do not suppose mess (until there's severe squalor to the factor of well being matters) and dangerous grades might be ample to difference custody. The reality that you've a spouse and your ex is a unmarried mother has no concerning it whatever. What I might propose is to visit court docket to expand visitation. Work the entire factor slowly. Look up the legislation to your state approximately how so much bearing a youngster's option has on custody - there are age limits wherein the pass judgement on will need to recall the youngster's option wholly. Custody battles are REALLY high-priced and almost always lengthy. I suppose running in steps (attempt to get as soon as every week visitation first, and so on.) might paintings extra conveniently. And thank you for being a Dad that cares such a lot. The global demands extra men such as you!
2016-09-01 03:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by lil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and ur ex try not playing tug of war with ur son !! Follow the visitation agreement you decided on and act civil around each other. News flash !!! your son is picking up on every little thing you and ur ex do and say. I'm sure you have spoken badly about ur ex in front of ur son and I'm sure ur ex has too, about you.
I'm a cop and I see it every day.....split up parents fighting over details of the "agreement" or what the other is doing when they have the child !!! Both with the underlying thought of, "how can I get full custody by making my ex look bad in court ??"
ur child needs both a mother and a father !!! If you can't be civil to each other.....fake it for the good of your child !!!!!!!
2006-10-27 15:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents meant the world to him. He had both parents before but now he has only one. This makes him very insecure. His is becoming aggressive due to his insecurity.
Your divorce is the main cause of his insecurity. It has nothing to do with his mother even if it looks that way. Stop trying to use his misbehavior which he does due to insecurity of not having both parents to get custody of ur son. The root cause is your divorce for which you too are responsible.
Get his to see a psychiatrist soon. That would be a better option. Learn to make him feel secure and then his aggressiveness would come down quite a bit.
2006-10-27 14:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see now honey what this bnoy is six years old and the mother isn't the only one that made that baby. Even though you are not together he is still your responsibllity. You must try and make that little guy understand that both his parents love him even though they aren't together. Try explaining to him why you split up and try telling him that its not his fault. 9 out of 10 chances thats what he believes. this is why he is acting out and you and your ex should sit down with him TOGETHER and figure this out. and get over yourselves and quit p'ushing the blame onto each other
2006-10-27 14:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not be the mother, but an abusive teacher, that your Ex doesn't know about I would check everyone in your son's life.
2006-10-27 14:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋