okay, i've gotten hit in the back with a soccer ball, hit in the head with a basketball once in the head, and three times with a hard volleyball. my him him likes another girl, this weird guy likes me, i can't stop flirting, a guy i like is dating this annoying chick, and worst of all, my best friend in the world is moving away! that's mostly what this question's about how do i cope with that? i am not used to not having Sammie around....... how do i let go....... i read the book "I Love You Kate" by Juli Norris and it's an awesome book but it doesn't fit my situation....... how do i get over it? sure i can call her and email her but i don't know if i can make it through school without her and i don't know who to hang out with without her and i'm going to miss her alot. what do i do? serious answers please! has this ever happened to you
2006-10-27 14:34:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sammie's moving across the state
2006-10-27 14:42:21 · update #1
i am a mormon and i love Jesus and read the scriptures. i am so active i can't get enough of the gospel it makes me so happy i wish everyone knew this happiness. i go to church every sunday and i pray and i just love it! i can't get enough of it!
2006-10-27 14:49:57 · update #2
No tengo nada.
Я не имею ничего.
2006-10-27 14:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by xinnybuxlrie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yea. I have had serious friends in school, only to have them suddenly leave my life with no coming back. This causes confusion and pain.
I find that if you do some simple stretching and aerobic exercises every day, the bad feelings quickly go away, you become more focused, and then you become more self confident. THEN people notice you more and new friends will approach you.
PS; no matter how old you get in life, good friends STILL will come, and go. I am age 54 and I am STILL loosing and gaining friends. Friends JUST don't last forever.
It sucks. But that is life. I am lucky to have the memories of all the friends I have had over the years, and happiness of knowing that new friends will come into my life as I get even older. Photos help, too!
2006-10-27 14:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well from experience I can tell you that you will make it without Sammy. It will take some time to get past the emotions and there will be alot of different emotions involved. You may even at one point find that you are mad at her. The lesson here is not to be mad at anyone, it is to discover that you can survive on your own.
A trip and fall as a child who chose not to listen to someone with experience only gives that child experience first hand, on what happens when you don't listen, i.e. you trip, you fall, you get hurt-lesson learned.
Nothing wrong with flirting as long as you beware of the idiots that lye ahead. Men/young men, males in general (maybe not all) mostly are not thinking about your feelings at a young age. I am assuming by your question you are young so forgive me if I am wrong. When a young man wants something he will do whatever and say whatever it takes to get it.
When or if he easily gets what he wants, he, in his mind has won his game and moves on to the next challenge. If you don't make it challenging you will not win his heart you will only get used and he will move on to another easy catch. That's just the way it works. HORMONES
When men get older and find out what it feels like to get hurt on their end (what goes around comes around) they start to grow up just a little in that area and will respect a woman more only if she is not coming on too strong. If a woman gives it up right away this will only help him with his need for a quick fix and a quick judgement on the woman's character and she will loose him.
All girls are annoying for the most part so get used to that one. Maybe even take a minute to talk to the weird guy, usually you will find that they are worth the effort and you may just make a nice friend if not anything else. I always went for the bad boys and the really good looking Italian or Greek guys, now I wish I could find a normal, loving, smart prince.
Believe me, the bad boys are good for alot of things but in the end, if you have higher goals in life you need to set your standards high. Be a snob about it because you can but stay nice.
2006-10-27 14:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over the summer my best freind moved half way across the US. Before she left i wouldnt really act like im sad or anything.But on the day she left i creid my eyes out.We've been best freinds since we were 7 and now were about to turn 17!!i call her all the time and we email each other.Just hang in there and kno that no matter how far u guys are from each other, u'll be thinkin of each other and there's noone that could replace that.Try to make new freinds to hang out with but dont try to replace her premantly.
2006-10-27 14:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by *~Love?~* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you had a strong relationship in the beginning..he should have sat down and had a talk with you. he should have believed in you and trusted you. Relationships are built on trust..if you dont have that..you will never have a good solid foundation to build that relationship back up. i think you should just move on and continue in the relationship you are in now. if the new guys loves, respects you and you trust each other...that is a great foundation for a super relationship. wish you the best... dont go back just because ... its been 3 1/2 years now...he isnt the same person anymore.. you both have grown since then... he may also just be coming around for a quickie...you know..since he doesnt have a girl at the moment...We have all done that and 90% of the time...its not a good idea...
2016-03-19 00:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend part...I have moved twice in 2 years. It's hard. I'm not the one whose friend moved away so I can't speak for them. You can't ever let your friends go. But in reality, you probably won't be friends in 5 or so years. Since I moved, only 1 of my like 7 friends keep in touch. Try hanging out with people you feel at least a little bit comfortable with. You can't be shy and you have to make the first move. How I met my best friends, I had to be the unshy one and I am really shy. I just asked to sit w/ them at lunch. You are going to miss her for a while but life goes on. You're going through a phase when everything seems to suck really bad and you are going to have to cope with it unfortunately. :( If you're dedicated and determined to stay best friends w/ her, you will. And she will too. Life is hard, trust me. I hope you guys stay friends and keep in touch! Try calling her at least once a week and give her the news about what's going on and such. Best of luck.
2006-10-27 14:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bella Swan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life isn't suppose to be this hard and this unfair, but that's the way Life like it. You have to cope with the situation because you have to. Has soon as you realize this you will be growing up. It's better to pass this things fast that mope for the rest of your life. The time you spend thinking of the things lost, of the unfairness of life is the time you are loosing from your own life. Just let it go... take a deep breath and keep living. Is better to see sadness walk away fast than see time passing through your eyes and don't enjoying your life.
2006-10-27 14:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by Diana M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GameGiver is back in the building! Did y'all miss me? Anyway, darling, please realize that it's not the end of the world. I don't know what a him him is, but if it's your boyfriend, just because he likes someone else doesn't mean you should leave him, unless he just came out of the blue and told you he liked ol' girl. That would mean that he might would like to get with her. But if you asked him them crazy questions that women love to ask men, and it does sound like y'all are young, he might have just answered your question honestly and stupidly. He might have said he's attracted to old girl but didn't mean no more than he said. Please get used to your friends getting with people you don't like. A lot of girls go through their "a##-hole men" phase but it hits different girls at different times. It's better that he annoys you than you liking him. Just try not to complain about him to her and eventually, he might go away. Flirting is a part of your personality. You can't help it unless you're trying to do it, then you can just stop. If you don't want to, then don't be mad at your man for liking someone else when obviously you do,too. Best friends move away. Happens all the time. People like you that you don't like. Happens all the time. Keep in touch with your bf and go visit her sometimes if y'all stay tight. Gives you somewhere to stay when you travel. Be nice to weird guy. One day he might not be so weird and very rich. Also, if she's the only friend that you have to hang out with, then maybe YOU might be the weird one. HAHA! Holla at ya boy! P.S. Stay away from all sports with balls involved.
2006-10-27 14:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by GameGiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay look home girl i been though this i know its hard but you will have to talk to other people.you can still have her there to answer your problems call her when you need her advice.and maybe you can have her down for summer vacation or spring break. eventually one of two things will happen ya'll will stay good friends or ya'll will grow apart but by the time ya'll grow apart if you do ya'll would have met new friends and remember she will need your advice too because she is going to be at a new school
with new people!!! good luck
2006-10-27 14:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that!!!!!!!! Even if you think this kind of stuff only happends to you, don't worry everyone's gone through it! It's tough to be seperated from a BFF, but whats mant to happen happens, so I know you can get throught it! I know it's easier for me to say this, but try to put yourself out there & meet new friends, you'll be supprised at yourself when you do!!!! ~~Good Luck!
2006-10-27 14:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am absolutely serious. Go to a guidance counselor or a therapist. I am not saying you are crazy, but you don't want to go all emo or get depressed. It sounds like you need someone to talk to. Sometimes it is best to talk to someone you don't know really well, like a counselor. You could talk to your parents, but you need a nice long quiet time and place to do it in. Good luck. I hope evrything will be ok.
2006-10-27 14:37:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋