OK, before I get flamed about how it's wrong for a student and an instructor to be involved, I am aware that it's wrong. It's against university policy and it's morally/ethically wrong. But, my query is this...He is a graduate student that is currently my instructor. But next semester, I won't be taking his class. I know that they say never to get involved with YOUR instructor while you are in their class, but they never said about getting involved if you are no longer their student.
What's your opinion on us getting involved after I no longer have him as an instructor? We sense each others feelings for one another, but both of us know better than to actually acknowledge it and even pursue it right now, as neither one of us want to mess up our academics.
2006-10-27 14:28:27 · 7 answers · asked by D 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Professor X, We both are of the same major, just he is a graduate and I am an undergraduate. So I will be in that area more than someone who wasn't majoring in the same thing as their graduate instructor.
2006-10-27 16:27:01 · update #1
You really need to find out your particular university's policy on this.
Graduate students are strongly advised by their faculty (and by the administrators in the graduate school) NEVER to get involved with undergraduates, especially if they are majors or minors in the discipline in which they are studying.
However, these things do happen from time to time. All the rules in the world cannot prevent it.
If you are not a major or minor, and will not be taking any more classes in his DEPARTMENT, then there is a bit less of a conflict, and waiting until next semester might be considered acceptable in some universities.
So, find out your university's policies, and find out what his professors have instructed him to do in cases like this. It is important that if something does come of this, that he notifies his professors so that arrangements can be made to avoid any further conflicts of interest.
2006-10-27 15:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by X 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I challenge that it is morally/ethically wrong. It is questionable, but not definitely wrong. The problem is with the appearance of something wrong. It is not wrong by itself. Your instructor cannot seem to be giving preferential treatment to anyone. Your instructor also cannot seem to be discriminating against anyone. It is the appearance more than the actual act which is of concern. The student has a similar responsibility though it is a different responsibility. The student cannot have the appearance of manipulating the instructor. It is more about what could happen than it is about what will happen.
It's not wrong. It's just very questionable. What would happen if a woman got a job at a university and her husband decided to enroll after she had established herself? Could he take classes under her even if she were the only available instructor for the class? Would it be any different if they had been married for 55 years as opposed to 5 years?
2006-10-27 14:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must , wait until the clas ends or one of you graduate. Have either of you considered transfering colleges? A way to put all worng doing to an end is the marry him. Why rush into a relationship right away ? I have found it to be true that some of the best lovers or partners got to know each other as friends first. Good luck
2006-10-27 14:52:03 · answer #3 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't think you'll ever be able to have a healthy relationship when you two are in such different levels of authority. Regardless of the fact that you won't be in his class anymore, he still is a teacher, while you're a student, that says something about power. I mean, no to presume things about your relationship, it just doesn't seem like it will go anywhere considering you two are in very different points of life. You're still learning, and he's the one teaching.
2006-10-27 14:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally its a lot greater to do matters in individual, or over the mobile alternatively, than IM. Things is also awkward for a whilst, of direction haha esp in case you REALLY suppose for him, however simply provide him a choice, and provide an explanation for the way you suppose, after which itll develop into a talk, and who is aware of whatll occur after that
2016-09-01 03:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by lil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, but here it is from someone else. Cool it until next semester and then see what happens.
2006-10-27 14:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by fordkid14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl
2006-10-27 14:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by ladyoh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋