I know who i am, i know my backround, but i don't feel like me, i feel i should be someone else... this is hard to explain, i think it's because I'm not being true to myself, i'm a really nervous person, and i've a stammer (which doesn't help), let's face it, i'm not exactly popular. so basically my question is: how can i feel like me?
2006-10-27 13:19:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well you have to start accepting who you are. I use to have really low self esteem and I felt like I didn't know who I was. I didn't think there was anything special about myself I felt like a looser. The problem was that my self esteem masked who I was. I denied the good stuff about me and only believed the bad.
So far you've only said negative things about yourself. So I'm thinking maybe you too are masking your true self. What are you good at? Are you good at sports? Are you creative? Are you book smart? Are you a good cook? Are you good at fixing things? Are you funny? Stuff like that. It doesn't matter if your not popular or any other bad things about you. The negative things do not make you who you are they are only a part of you. Everyone has negative things about them. They also have good. If you constantly look at the bad, of course how can you feel like yourself? Because it's not you, or at least all of you. Listen to the positive things people say about you. Then think about them, because sometimes people know us better then we know ourselves. We tend to be our biggest critique in that the bad things about ourselves we see 100 times greater then other people see. The good things people see in us we try and brush off like they are just being nice. So give it some thought and start trying to accept you the bad and the good!
2006-10-27 13:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be who you are in your mind.I have that problem sometimes.Start a activity like dance or karate. Learn how to play an instrument.Learning how to do these things well will give you something to show off,and something to have confidence about.Maybe you can start making clothes.Its a wonderful way to express yourself and show what you truly are.Talk to someone like your mom and dad more often,and when you talk alot,you'll notice your stammering and you can try to correct it.Hope this helps and good luck!
2006-10-27 13:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your family situation like?
Is it possible that you are suffering from anxiety or depression? Both of these will make you feel out of it. Talk to your doctor or consider seeing a counsellor if you feel really not like yourself. If you feel you're putting on a fascade for other people then yes, you will feel fake.
The hardest thing in the world is to find out who you are and your values. You probably need to sit with some anxiety to find this out and take some risks. Risk rejection. Risk trying new things.
2006-10-27 13:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by NordicGuru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose your self in doing what you like, and forget about how you feel for now. Believe it or not sleep plays an important part in nervous behavior. Role playing also helps, because you might just need, to see who you are not to see who you are. Remember low biorhythm days will fade, and for me it weather causes this.
2006-10-27 13:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by wen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One does not find ones self you consciously or unconsciously choose who you end up being
2006-10-27 13:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by royalpalaceofhell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get out of this 'MID LIFE CRISIS' you will feel like you again.
2006-10-27 13:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by basport_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋