My husband seems to have wondering eyes. We cannot go anywhere without him looking at other women/girls, even infront of me. Why does he do it? Is he no longer attracted to me or is he just being a typical man?
2006-10-27 13:18:34 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all men have wandering eyes ... but the others are dead.
Ok, seriously, we TRY not to have you notice. But ... we are just lousy fakers.
I guess I would look at it this way. He looks at other women, some of whom are really gorgeous. Yet, he chose you. He stays with you, he WANTS you.
So, every time you see it, or don't see it, you can rest assured that he still finds you the most attractive, special person he has met ... and he looks at you first thing in the morning, and last thing at night.
Of course, I am divorced, so what the heck to I know?
2006-10-27 13:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by robert_dod 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Welshmom - I think many people enjoy people watching - I know my wife and I enjoy it. I enjoy looking at pretty women, and love my wife/attracted to her very much. I wouldn't take it personal. I just think some people enjoy watching people. He should not stare as I believe that would be disrespectful, but I see no harm in glances. Maybe do it yourself to some goodlooking guys and see what kind of reaction he has. If he objects, this could be a discussion point between you both on how it makes you feel if it bothers you. Best of luck to you both.
2006-10-27 13:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by ur_ave_joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, he's typical alright! But to women it makes us feel unworthy or less attractive. Let the truth be known "Men think of sex every 3 minutes",thus the gaze to someone passing by. But you need not worry because it's his heart that's the hardest to capture. As long as he's holding you in the night ........a gaze is nothing more than a few minutes and he's by your side for hours.
2006-10-27 13:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes being a man (not typical) But if hes going home with you I wouldn't worry to much, If so do the same thing check out some men see what his response is. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-27 13:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A typical man. My husband has done this all our married life. That's been 26 years and 8 months. I look at the women too, and comment on them. I even point out the really beautiful ones.
At one time it proably bothered me, but it's been so many years ago till I can't recall a time that it's upset me. Now, if he started staring at the women then I would proably be ticked. But a quick look, should hurt anything. Hey, if he looks that means you can check out the hot guys..and he can't say anything..lol Let him look, it's not hurting anything as long as he remembers he can't touch....
God bless us all..........
2006-10-27 13:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are a thing of beauty. Men are visually stimulated creatures who are naturally drawn to objects which are pleasing to the eye. We can't help it ....it the way we were made. You should not worry about him looking at attractive women. In fact you should be more worried if he stops looking. Maybe you should tell him that it makes you feel insecure when he does it in your presence. Let him no that it's OK to look but tell him to never do it in a way that is disrespectful of you.
2006-10-27 13:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by lowrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most men do it, but I don't agree that it's something that men "can't help." But, I don't necessarily think it means he's no longer attracted to you. If your sex life is still active (enough for your taste, and he doesn't seem dissatisfied), I wouldn't worry about that part of it. If his ogling other women in front of you bothers you, you might try telling him so (if you haven't already) - in a non-confrontational way. Maybe ask him if he's satisfied with your love life, tell him you got a little concerned because you noticed him noticing other women and want to make sure he still thinks you're attractive or hot, whatever it is that his behavior makes you insecure about.
2006-10-27 13:24:42 · answer #7 · answered by kundalinicat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All men do this. My man is descrete about it. If you know him you'll see only his eyes move, he said he's always been descrete he doesn't want to creep out a woman. His brother on the other hand will physically turn around and gawk at a pretty girl, that is embarassing even to men that are around him. But he wil openly "check me" out when we are in public, just to make me feel sexy. He can look at anyone he wants because I know he's going to check me out too and he goes home with me.
2006-10-27 13:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is married, not dead. It is natural for him to notice attractive women. It does sound like he needs to be a little more discrete.
This does not mean that he doesn't love you or that he isn't attracted to you.
To a lot of men, women are among the most beautiful sights in the world. If he starts stalking them it's time to get worried.
2006-10-27 13:26:45 · answer #9 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be fair ...I don't know your husband but I would not look at another woman or girl in front of my girl/wife ....at least not while she was looking!!! I would maybe get a quick glance if I saw a attractive woman etc. but certainly not in front of her!!! By the way if I really was 100 % attracted top the one in front of me then she would get my full attention!!!! Most men cant control themselves when it comes to being commited but when Im in a relationship with its all about the One in front of me!!
2006-10-27 13:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by fxbeto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋