O:k I put my husband out because I think he cheated on me. I know for a fact he was friend with this girl without my knowledge.They exchange b-day cards. He said they never had sex, just friends. However we have been separated for 6months, but we still have sex. It's not the same as before, but still good.My mine is just not in it the same. Most of time its me wanting it. To be honest I'm scared of meeting someone new. I still love u. I'm one of those woman who grow up saying"if a man ever cheat on me I'm leaving". My mind say leave. My heart is on pause. My feet won't move. My body is calling. Should I just forget about that **** and get back with my husband? Togather 8yrs Married 5yrs. One son.
2006-10-27 13:12:58 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U think he cheated what is that. So you threw your man out, because u think. Girl I take it that ur a sister. I don't know wat he did to make you think. Maybe u should think a lil harder. Of course you still love him, and he love you too. If you all still having sex, If that man had someone else I don't think he would be bothered with u. People make mistakes, Give him a chance. Relize its all up to you. I'm pretty sure he wants to come home.
2006-10-29 13:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you hit the point, because I have been there and done that.
As a cheating husband which very few people married men and women admit doing it.
If you want him back, give him some breathing room but do not give in every time he comes over for relaxation. If he is still coming to you for relief, then there must be something wrong in his other relationship.
Yes, it is hard to trust other people you meet these days. I recommend that you do not give out any important information or personal information until you feel comfortable with your new relationship.
He might come back begging if you do not give in to him everytime he wants something.
This is from a man that has been there and done that.
Good Luck
2006-10-27 20:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me also. That was eight years ago and one more son later were still together. It came down to this. I loved him and we had a son. But more importantly I wasn't about to start all over with someone new. Relationships are hard work even when it's a good one. Try to work it out. besides sex is good and it's always fun to fall in love again. Make him earn it. Romance, romance romance. You can forgive, but never forget.
Together 14 years married 7
2006-10-27 20:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by dominator 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry honey, but having sex with him is not something you should be doing. what if he gives you some std? i think you should set your mind that you will only have contact with him when it comes to your son. and maybe the reason you still long for him is because you are not doing any thing to get over him or what he has done. start going and doing things with other people, instead of sitting around because sitting around only makes you lonely and that's when you want him. i never understood why men/ or women would want to be with someone after they allowed another person to touch them,knowing that there private parts were touching someone else.
2006-10-27 20:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kicked my husband out as well. He was cheating on me .We ended in divorce. Even though we had some sexual encounters afterwards I knew deep down he would not change & he would continue to hurt me. He continued his affair. You have to think about all the bad stuff you went through so you can stop being attracted to him. Believe me it is hard at first, you miss the company, the warmth, his scent but you will be proud of yourself afterwards.
2006-10-27 20:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by mari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
buy some toys!!! Do you know for sure he cheated??? Arn't married people allowed to be friends with people of the other sex??? Has he known her for awhile, have you two ever met???
ask her if they did anything. If she dosn't know ur his wife she dosn't have to. You must have a very jelous mind & jump to conclusions,if you know think he cheated on you because he's friends with a women other then you & they give each other birthday cards.Have you done something you regret...
2006-10-27 20:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by prepishippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a decision. If he is still lieing and you know that he did cheat do you want to continue to sleep with a person that you cannot trust and make it harder on your self or do you want to leave him alone and move on with your life? Easier said than done. Reach deep into yourself, you have to love yourself before you can truly love others. Good Luck
2006-10-27 20:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Vernee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 8 yrs of marriage is nothing to sneeze at and nobody is perfect i would probably try to work out whatever the problem is as long as the cheating thing is not an all the time cheating thing and it might be a good idea to find out why he feels the need to find company with another women and try to fix it
2006-10-27 20:23:09 · answer #8 · answered by minnesotanicegurl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to just sit down and "really" think about everything. make a list with 2 columns...good and bad...now list under each one all the things you can think of from your 8 yrs. together. See where you stand. Good Luck
2006-10-27 20:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by mfroeh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he cheated on u u should go with ur first ind=stink and move on although u have a child think about what it would do to him! my parents got divorced when i was a kid and it broke my heart im currently writing a book on it. but if u think it is the right thing to do talk to him about it it would never hurt to tell him what ur feeling
2006-10-27 20:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Krystal marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋