My wife cheated on me last year. We seperated for about 5 months but are now back together. I do love her but I have not forgiven her. I don't bring it up anymore and I don't even think about it as much as I used to. But every once in a while it just pops in my head and I get sad and upset. Will it ever stop? What should I do?
2006-10-27 13:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by voidone76108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry that you had to experience that, however from my past experience i think that it will always be in the back of your mind and it is OK to show your emotions, your human. Your wife did a terrible thing but if you all are back together then you should be doing things to help rebuild your marriage and trust. Hope everthing goes well.
2006-10-27 13:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Vernee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself, man! You've already begun the healing process so why continue pulling the scab off the wound. Whenever the thought crops up again, immediately say (either silently or out loud if you can) CANCEL, CANCEL to the thought and immediately find another something to think about that doesn't bring you back to that idea again. You have to be the guardian at the threshold of your mind. Cancel, Cancel immediately unwanted stuff. Your subconcious will eventually get the message if you do that this is stuff to ignore.
2006-10-27 13:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Moe J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sad that you had to experience this trauma to your marriage. It is admirable of you to value your relationship so much that you would continue. I guess the only advice I would give you to help overcome this would be to continue getting to the heart of what caused this infidelity to occur in the first place. Don't stop working! That is the only way you two will heal and you can eventually forgive. My prayers are with you.
2006-10-27 13:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Beth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has broken THE most cherished aspect of trust in a marriage. I don't know that you will ever get completely over this, I know I didn't. There will always be something to serve as a reminder...always. It is important however, that you for forgive her... but you may never forget.
2006-10-27 13:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by out of order 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk about it with her. Tell her that you have forgave her , but at times you still have a hard time with it and you just need to talk about it. You just need a little reassurance about it. And it take time to rebuild that trust, but if you both love respect each other and each others feelings you will make it through it.
2006-10-27 13:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never stop. You could probably go years without thinking about it and then wham, it will pop up.
2006-10-27 13:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes alot of work to get past something like this, i admire you for trying to get past this pain. it will stop providing she gives you reasons to trust her again.have you considered counciling?has she expressed remorse for this? good luck, and keep trying, odviously she cared for you alot or she would be with the other man, but she chose you over him, that should count for something shouldn't it?
2006-10-27 13:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife about it and pray for yourself and the marriage
2006-10-27 13:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by deemark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling to help you both get threw this!!
2006-10-27 13:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When find out please let me kown
2yrs and counting.
2006-10-27 13:14:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋