I am i high school sophmore and I take an after school class. After this class they send a bus for us, send us to the middle school, and then home on the buses there. Today i was standing behind one of my friends(neighbor..he goes to middle school) at the middle school and he accidentally knocked some books outa this really stupid middle schooler that looks like hes been held back so many times he could be in college. This kid orders my friend to pick them up and while my friend does the group around him(small gang) start calling him names like "Fatass" and laughing at him. I felt like telling my friend not to pick them up and get out of the way. I would have gone for help but the nearest adult was a few hundred feet from me and a lot of people in between. If this guy picks on my friend agian, what should i do? i know a lot of kids from high school that would back me up in a fight but i dunno if its the right thing...I know i could take em but idk if its right...
2006-10-27 12:56:30 · 8 answers · asked by monkey_c3po 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Do not question if its right or not. To quote the conversation between Luke and Yoda:
"How can I tell the light from the dark?"
"You will know, when you are calm, at peace."
And remember. Do, or do not. There is no try.
2006-10-27 13:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fighting never is the answer unless it is in complete self defense. This is a typical "bully". Research has shown that bullies only form from being bullied. This could be either from parents or other class mates. This is a learned behavior. He feels bad about what happend to him and he is trying to cover it up by being tough. If this ever happens again dont fight hit him with words. Tell him that you feel really sorry for him that the only way he can make friends is by acting like an idiot. Tell him that its sad that he is so insecure about himself that he has to pick on other people to make him feel better. Believe me it will hurt his feelings. He wont bother your friend again. By fighting it can get you in trouble and it just makes everyone more mad. Nothing gets solved. If this doesn't work then I know it sounds dumb but you need to tell a teacher so this can get resolved.
2006-10-27 20:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always picked on in school, kids will never change. They will always be mean and say mean things to kids that are different. If I were you, I would just take your friend and get him out the the situation. If the bully comes after you and hits you first then it would be self defense but if you hit him first then you will be the one to be in trouble and this bully will continue to get away with murder. Bully's generally will not take the first step to hit someone they want the other person to throw the first punch so that they don't get the blame.
2006-10-27 20:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. It's one of those life lessons you learn. Most people won't take it too far if they know they can't get a reaction out of you.
However, if they start getting physical, you need to hit hard and make sure they don't get up. I mean really giving to them. No one can question your desire for self preservation.
But DON'T bring in other people the next day. If you're going to get into a fight, do it then and there. Waiting only makes you look bad.
2006-10-27 20:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by bmusementpark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is never the answer only the last resort. The next time this situation arises, you should get your friend as far away from this situation as possible. It takes a much bigger man/woman to walk away from a fight.
2006-10-27 20:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by bdub25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem to be peaceful person.
i've seen this problem wid many people.those people want to solve those prob. but by peaceful manner.
but listen,this thing is not possible.i know so many guys like that.
if they start abusing u. even u should start doing that .
if u want to teach him lesson,then start talking wid his friends ,become close to them(i mean help them or just say hi ,hello) .this will surely help u.coz that one lonely kid cant to anything to u.
& don't ever be afraid of these people
& if u feel like beating him,go ahead ,u r not doing anything wrong.
call me.even i'll come to beat him
2006-10-27 20:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he and his ugly friends need to back off and stay away unless he wants to get in trouble with you and your friends. I would CALMLY tell him this so he does not say some high schooler threatend him. But if he does, tell them what he and his freinds did. I would kick their butts but I could get or you could get in BIG trouble. Just tell him he needs to back off unless he wants trouble.
2006-10-27 20:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I would Just tell him to knock it off.If both of you stand up to him then he might listen.
2006-10-27 20:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Falon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋