He was also using the web cam, he said he was only using the light on it. He was on granny porn and hes in his 40s and i am 29. He denys it but he was the only one in the house.He always led me to beleive he wasnt like that or i wouldnt of been with him today.His lies make it worse.He even said to my 13yr old neice once she had a right slapable bum.He said to my sister to walk in front so he could check her bum out!. I feel ive no respect for myself being in this relationship, I cant see it lasting much more at this rate, he is a womaniser i cant even have my neices round.
2006-10-27 12:39:20 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Well get out and leave him to his perversions. My ex was like that. I found images of transexuals on his computer, hidden porn videos among regular videos etc - and although he lived alone he still denied it! He is now a recluse but that's his choice. I feel so much stronger now and I'm in a relationship with a lovely bloke now.
You can't trust this bloke - so you'll only be miserable - and maybe he'll make the lives of your female relatives miserable as well.
2006-10-27 12:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by lianhua 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Big question that begs a lot more questions. First, calm down and think rationally and relationally. How long have you been together and how many "incidents have there been". How do they make you feel and for how long. If its few and far between, don't worry. How does he handle them and reassure you? As for the porn, most men at some time look at it, especially when apart from their gal. If its only once in a while and nothing weird (and no granny porn ain't that weird, not at his age. From experience most would only be 10 years older than him, and you're younger than him by more than 10 years.) Now for the lying, its not good, but if it is your strong expectation that he have any interest in porn, and not his proclivity against it, than it is a reasonable expectation to calm you down. Talk you him seriously but not condemmingly about his porn use and see if it is well outside your bounds or if your bounds are way to tight for how little he uses it. The comments to the niece. OK, made some like that to my niece- one funny, one to remind her that her big mouth and age did not preclude a good spanking for use of said mouth. Joking occasionally is not bad. Too much and too inappropriately is. Same with the sister. Talk it out and evaluate based on the answers and events over time. God Bless!
2006-10-27 12:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by klingongac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is a harmless release.
It's not an insult or a slur. It's just life.
Blokes like porn. You'll never change that.
Ask yourself this. Does he sleep with the women in the porn pictures?
No, he sleeps with you. That's because you're teh one he loves. The women in the porn are just a \/\/ank fantasy for times when you're not there.
2006-10-27 13:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Swampy_Bogtrotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porns okay .... men are programmed to like womens curves. men view the world more visually than women too. But the granny stuff ......urrgh. this guy needs to clean his mind and grow some moral standards, maybe he was just curious or something but if he viewed it more than once or twice then he has a problem.
As for saying those things, id let it fly maybe once, but if i saw even the slightest suggestion towards your niece again then its time to tell the freak where to go.
2006-10-27 12:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so the dude likes porn doesnt every bloke? everyone has there fantasy and if his happens to be grannys then thats up to him hes still in the relationship so it seems to me like it is just a fantasy as for the 13 year old and checkin out your sisters bum yea ok thats abit wrong
2006-10-27 12:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by squirrel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
like many men his heart and soul is corrupted, it is not with you,
the women in porn, are the enemy of good women like yourself, they corrupt the men and it snowballs down the line to the youth, and children, Its a terrable shame, even the laws of the land accomodate porn to corrupt the people. Get shut of him but realise that men have had this stuff rammed down their throughts for years, but the bad women are not getting any blame. If you want a good man go to a place where good men go.
2006-10-27 22:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by trucker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was satisfied with the relationship, then he wouldn't bother with the porn because he has all he needs. But if he does bother with porn then tht means he's not satisfied. Then why should you stay with someone who has an unsatifiable addiction? If he looks at other girls then it common sense to know that he is not totally commited to you. Find someone who is. Someone who REALLY wants you wouldn't look at other girls in the first place.
2006-10-27 12:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To quote an old song by Simon and Garfunkel, titled "Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover: Just slip out the back Jack. Make a new plan Stan. You don't need to be coy Roy. Just get yourself free. Hop on the bus Gus. You don't need to discuss much. Just drop off the key Lee and get yourself free.
In other words. Leave. Leave now.
2006-10-27 12:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by PDY 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is one horrible person.
i could never tolerate a person like that to be around a niece of mine or any relative. he not that into you plus he might harm you loved ones id say kick him out of your life before its too late to fix the problems he is causing you.
you cant change the past but you don't live so work on fixing a better future because that's where you will live.
2006-10-27 12:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just wants an *** on legs, if you don't want him checking out the rest of your family you better move him away, going on porn is clearly saying..."i want to see something else, i want to see someone else, its better", he might have true feelings for you, but to look at someone as young as 13 sexually..and yeh its definately sexual, thats wrong, just let him go, he'll probably replace everything he can with something else he can see. Sounds like he probably got with u by being nice..and probably would with anyone else aswell..
2006-10-27 13:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋