I have this friend whose name will be withheld so lets just call him Fred. Well Fred all the sudden comes up to me asks me if he can trust me and i said of course and he told me not to tell anyone so i said ok. he told me to pull his sleeve and i did....he is a cutter.he is emo too. well he all the sudden tells me this. we hardly talk that much but we're good friends. well he is getting worse, he cut himself last night and i tell him to stop and get help but he says he doesn't want the guidence counselor to know cus she'll tell his parents. Well he told me he is depressed because he doesn't have a girlfriend and because of this long embarrassing story which i won't type here. Well here's the question: I don't know if i should tell someone who can REALLY do something about it or wait and see or never tell. He said he DOES NOT wnat me to tell and he had the most serious look i have ever seen. So please help me and only serious answers please
2006-10-27 12:36:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had a friend who did the same thing. It's really a judgement call- I think it's best to make sure his whole family is aware how seriously depressed he is. In addition try to get him to understand that the even though it may feel better to release the pain physically by cutting, this is only a temporary feeling that cannot really help the issue at hand. His mind is what needs to heal, and emotional therapy via exercise or prescribed chemical means can usually help more than you might think.
2006-10-27 12:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by sandra_panda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think when your friend told you it was a cry for help, or he wouldn't have even showed you. This is scary and upsetting, but when someone is doing something to hurt themselves or others, you have to do the right thing and reach out for help. I wouldn't tell any other kids, but I would seriously consider telling the guidance counselor and let the adults handle it from there. Don't worry about him being mad at you, because it'll all turn out for the best in the end when he gets the help he needs. Good luck to you.
2006-10-27 12:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell the guidance counselor I know he said not to tell for they will call the parents they have to for by law he is harming himself and soon he will lose all blood and die from this and you don;t need this on your conscience at first he will yell at you for betraying him I had a friend in HS who did this and she was furious at me but afterwards she thanked me for having the courage to tell on her for she really did need help so go and get help for him don't let him know that you told the counselor and tell the counselor the same thing too they can always say that a teacher saw him show you his arm or they got a glance of it themselves and a teacher told on him not you that way your friendship is saved good luck to you both !!
2006-10-27 12:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a toll-free number you can call--1-800-DONT-CUT. You could ask them how to help your friend. In the meantime, since he has trusted you by showing you that he does this, ask him to call you whenever he gets the urge to cut, and to tell you what's going on. Maybe talking to you will keep him from cutting. I hope so.
2006-10-29 02:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats really hard to say something and give you advice but i will tell you my story i use to do that to couse i use to get down and depessed and i stoped myself by putting a rubber band on my wrist and snape it when i was feeling that feeling and it worked for me and now i havent done it for a couple of years.
2006-10-27 18:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a really hard spot. but what i would do is talk to him...and tell him not to feel like this cause u are their for him and if he does not stop.. u have to tell cause it will only get worse....
hopefully it wont and he will solve his problems but u should really talk to him
hope this helps
2006-10-27 12:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would be a good friend and not tell. if he thinks he needs help then he would stop or get help but he obviously doesnt i would just wait and see what happens and not tell anyone, just make sure if you can that he doesnt loose to much blood, cuz thats not good. good luckk !
2006-10-27 12:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're not going to like this, but I wouldn't do anything, except dump the problem on someone else.
2006-10-27 12:39:58 · answer #8 · answered by psryb 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
he's also a fag. listen, he's "emo"??? i bet he's just doing it for attention, to fit into the mold of what "emo" is. screw this kid, tell him to get a life.
2006-10-27 12:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by General P 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
im a cutter 2
hahahaha
2006-10-27 12:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋