I enjoy jogging with this person, but disapprove of many of their behaviors. It sounds weird, but I am truely appalled by some of the stuff this person tells me he/she does, from a personal values perspective. I have no idea if this person knows about my feelings or not, and would never reveal my thoughts on the matter. I feel guity about it. I feel like I am using this person exclusively to meet my jogging needs.
2006-10-27 12:34:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I like jogging with person because we both jog at a similar pace, like the same distance, tolerate extremely early morning hours, etc. I cannot find a more compatible jogging partner nearby; I have tried. Unfortunally, I tend to fall off the jogging-wagon when I don't have a partner (my failing - I know).
2006-10-27 14:05:36 · update #1
We live in a very intolerant world right now.
A little bit of charity from you toward your fellow jogger might be your bit to make the world a little better.
Live and let live.
2006-10-27 12:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy jogging with someone you actually don't like? With the very greatest respect, I'd suggest you need to look more at yourself than this other person.
Take away the jogging bit, and imagine your question was, I enjoy having dinner with a person I don't actually like, or, I enjoy going to the cinema, or doing crosswords, or going swimming, etc., etc., with someone I don't actually like.
Why do you enjoy BEING with a person you don't actually like?
Two possible answers.
1: You do actually like this person, but disapprove of their behaviour. Then get out, because many people have been seriously damaged that way.
2: You have low self-esteem, and feel that nobody else will jog with you. Get out, and find someone nicer that will. There will be lots and lots of them, I promise.
2006-10-27 13:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dissaprove of what the person is saying to you, tell that person, without sounding as if your are judging. Im sure that there are other things that you can talk about while you jog. If you cant find common ground, if you feel that that person is going to affect you somehow, then just stop jogging with that person and find another person to jog with
2006-10-27 12:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's actually really interesting.
I guess I would look at it on a selfish level. You enjoy jogging with this person, and to put it bluntly it sounds kind of entertaining to hear all of the awful stuff that they tell you. So I guess if this person hasn't specifically asked you your opinion on the things that are appalling, then you have to weigh out the entertainment factor.
And really, it sounds like they are using you to unleash their baggage or brag to or whatever they are doing...so maybe you're both using each other.
Short answer: weigh out your guilt. Do you *really* feel guilty for hearing all of this terrible stuff or do you feel guilty for being entertained by it?
If it's entertaining, keep on jogging :).
2006-10-27 12:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about creative solutions. Like: asking him/her to discuss some philosophical ideas (or whatever kind of ideas), movies you have seen, travel, beauty, special events you have experienced. In other words, direct the conversations to neutral topics. If this doesn't work, you could gently and kindly request that personal information should be off limits - by both of you. In other words, set a fair boundary for what you are willing to talk about or listen to.
Alternatively, say that you would love to listen to your favourite music & put on earphones & encourage your partner to do the same.
2006-10-27 18:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not an ethical dilemma - you always have a choice. you can jog with her if you want to, but you don't have to. it is not a questions of "should" or "should not".
if the stuff she tells you is offensive, then you might want to consider to stop subjecting yourself to this. if you don't agree with her values, then don't accept them as yours.
it would not be unethical to "use" this person for you jogging needs, as she clearly (if what you say is true) uses you for her needs, whatever they might be.
2006-10-27 13:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see this as an ethical dilemma at all. Jog with this person or not--Neither choice is unethical.
2006-10-27 13:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do know that jogging is not the only form of aerobic exercise, or the only form of exercise at all.
PS I hate running!!
2006-10-27 14:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't feel guilty. it's not like you are going against your values for jogging with somebody that doesn't share them. besides, it's not your job to judge this person anyway.
2006-10-27 12:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by WxEtte 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE using him
but so what =.=
I mean you could tell him "look I hate you, but I need you to run with me anyway" and it would just make running overly awkward thereafter.
He will lose a supposed friend, you will lose a running partner, lose-lose.
2006-10-27 14:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by -.- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋