Do you support gay marriage?

Answer 1

I don't understand this vehement opposition. How does it lesson one's own marriage? Or maybe I do understand it.

I'll tell you what this is in my view, if you're willing to hear some frank opinion. Some of it is outright ignorance or hate. But most of it is simple insecurity. I think the opposition to gay rights comes from a lack of self confidence of one's own social standing. That's male insecurity mind you- clearly homophobia was born of male competition over women. These men see gays as a threat to their own chances with women. If society allows homosexuals to coexist openly among heterosexuals, then these homosexuals may begin to influence women's opinions of what traits are desirable in men. Rather than controlling themselves, confident in their choice of lifestyle, interests, opinions, and how appealing they are in the eyes of women, these men panic, and demand absolute control over the rules of the game. They insist very publicly that everyone must hold the same opinions and respect the same rules. This is absurd in my mind.

Though nothing new, of course. It's simple Darwinian competition, and has been in play for millions of years. This political issue illustrates two very different approaches to life: One values working hard to make oneself a strong competitor in a game with ever-evolving rules. The other pretends the rules- and only such rules as benefit oneself- are static and absolute, then forces these fictitious rules upon all of society and punishes any skeptics or non-conformists.

Both approaches to life raise one's stock in the Darwinian game. It is undeniable that bigotry is effective. It achieves its aims. But which approach is stronger, that is, which approach ultimately will succeed in the long run? Before you answer, ask yourself one more question: Which approach is more adaptable? Well, you can see where I'm going with this. In a game of Darwinian competition the more adaptable strategy ultimately wins. So long as man remains civilized, the liberal belief wins out. It requires less energy. One manages oneself, not everyone else.

Civilization produces homosexuality. That's an uncomfortable fact to many men, but that's in our genetic makeup. Let's ask ourselves why homosexuality is more prevalent in cities. Why? Because of the reasons given above. In a city one learns very quickly that one cannot possibly manage everyone's beliefs. In rural settings, however, it is possible. People who live in rural settings are no different than their urban neighbors, it's just that one Darwinian strategy- the conservative one- plays out more favorably. Why is homosexuality more accepted in Europe? Older cities.

I believe my analysis applies to many other issues, not just the issue of gay rights. I see this political issue as one of many social conflicts that at their most basic become a struggle of the self versus the group, the individual versus the collective. Nothing new, Freud called it Civilization and its Discontents. Who you side with depends on your self-confidence regarding the Darwinian competition at stake. Do you gain more by siding with the group, or do you gain more by setting out on your own?

No doubt the world is a much cozier and safer place if everyone holds the same opinions, respects the same rules, and refrains from questioning Official Wisdom. It is also a much more boring place.

To quote Jim Morrison,

"How many of you are alive? How many of you people know you're really alive? You're all plastic soldiers in a miniature dirt war. I am the lizard king. I can do anything!"

A little out there, but essentially correct i

Answer 2

NO: Marriage is between One Man and One Woman. Thats the way its Always been thats the way it should Always Be. Somethings Do Not Need to change with the so called Times. Marriage is one of them. If Gays are allowed to marry Whats Next? And who's to DENY them. Why should There rights be Any different. Should Brother and sisters be allowed to marry? How about Mother and Child. Or One man 40 woman. Why can't a 50 Year old man marry a 12 year old? WHY should gays have any special privleages that those I just mentioned don't have.

Answer 3

I could care less one way or the other. I do not support the action that they took in San Francisco, where they chose just to ignore the law.

From a tactical standpoint I think the gays should have waited a few more years. They were gaining more and more acceptance but I think the marriage issue has galvanized the opposition.

Answer 4

The Bible has 4 verses that say homosexuality is wrong...and 100s of verses that say judging other people is wrong.
If Jesus was wondering around on the street right now, would he be hanging with scumbag Jerry Farwell, or seeking out the people who have been pushed away from the church?

I say, live and let live. Gay unions would put more people on insurance; and change the way inheritance works...I like that.

Answer 5

1. It is none of my f'in business.

2. I am not gay and I don't care if you are, just keep it to yourself.

3. If you decide to spend the rest of your life and be happy with someone than do it.

4. Shut up and get off the TV there are more important issues in the world to deal with!!!

Answer 6

Frankly, in the general sense I really don't care and we spend way too much time focusing on something that affects maybe 10% of the population. Actually way less since that would assume all gays would want to be married.

I'd prefer that some legal structure be set up so that gays who are couples can have some of the same benefits as married people.

Answer 7

I would have to say NO, I do not support it. It is not because I dont believe they are in love, but it is not right for 2 women or men to married. I dont see the big deal about being married if they want to live together and be with each other. That is not the way humans were meant to be paried and nothing personal against any group.

Answer 8

No. Most people in the USA do not support gay marriage.

Answer 9

Absolutely yes. I'd rather have a couple that went through heck just to be together, living next door to me, than a man and woman who treat marriage as a temporary hell.

Answer 10

Yes, I don't believe in discriminating who should have what rights. (When we do it seems to come back and embarrass our backward asses. Think civil rights movement.) I don't see how two men or women marrying will have a negative effect on me. Religion should never be used as a argument against any law (SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE!) and producing children is not a prerequisite of a marriage either. If it was, every heterosexual couple who isn't planning on having any kids, should not be allowed to marry either.