hje has a girl and he wont talk 2 me but im real close 2 his mom.what should i do
2006-10-27 11:39:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If your child's father and his mother share the same last name, I say do it. You have a close relationship with his mom (your child's grandmother) and it will help your child's connection to his father's family. If they have different last names, don't bother.
In any case make sure you have his SS# and file for child support. He doesn't have to talk to you but he should help support the child he helped create.
Good luck.
2006-10-27 11:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by aibnyc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in your shoes (some what) Im okay with my daughters grandmother, but when i was pregnant me and him "fell apart" he didnt want the baby and I did. Well to make a long story short I gave my daughter my last name. Since I figured that he wasnt there when she wasnt born why should she have his last name once she is born. So I gave her my last name. Besides there might be a chance that he might change his mind and be there for your baby BUT in my case he wasnt. So you have to think about will he be there and could you stand him to be there or you want him out of your life and childs life
2006-10-27 19:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how close you are with his mother.If you are real close and feel that she will be involved with the baby I would say yes to giving the baby his last name because she would most likely respect and appreciate that as a grandmother.
2006-10-27 18:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is don't give the baby his last name, I did and now regret it. Because I'm now with a man who is willing to be a dad to my child and wants to adopt her but can't because the father won't let him. He won't sign off his rights. So I'm stuck with this constant reminder of a loser.
2006-10-27 18:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't it can cause many problems down the road. Custody is the major one. I wish I would have never put my child's fathers (the sperm donor) name on the birth certificate or given her his last name......he wants nothing to do with her and I have to go through a lot to get coustody myself which means getting intouch with him and his girlfriend is causing problems.........his mother liked me once to
2006-10-27 18:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is for you to do what you think is right. If you believe your baby has the right to have his last name, then go for it. No matter what it won't affect the way you want to bring up your child....Good Luck with your decision.
2006-10-27 19:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the child your last name. Don't you think he should have to earn that right? Especially if he doesn't even talk to you. If his mom asks why just tell her that it's not because of her- it's because of her son. You're going to be the one raising the child so why shouldn't she have your last name?
2006-10-27 18:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Frostie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby both last names for example New Baby Smith-Johnson
2006-10-27 18:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by aintgivinup79 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
really search deep down inside. some states request that the father sign the birth certificate in order for the child to have the father's last name. check with the health department in your county to see if it's an option.
2006-10-27 18:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by carrie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is gonna be your baby and you can do as you please but no matter what the situation is i believe in giving a baby the father's last name.
Example say your last name is wilson and his last name is taylor if you give the baby your last name then he will not know who he is kin to later on in life without his true last name. Your baby would truely be a taylor and not a wilson.
Or you can name your kid with boy last names like this
Wilson-Taylor
That is what i believe
2006-10-27 18:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋