I have a one month old daughter and when she got back from a weekend with her father i found out he had gotten her ears peirced...IS IT TOO EARLY TO HAVE THEM PEIRCED OR IS IT ALRIGHT & SHOULD I BE MAD AT HIM FOR NOT TELLING ME ANYTHING ABOUT IT???
2006-10-27 11:25:58 · 26 answers · asked by A'Kerriah Momma 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I would be extremly upset with this as how can a 1 month old understand why they have pain in their ears. They are also spending a large amount of time laying down so will be feeling it much more. I think I would have removed the earings and then made it very clear to the father that if he does anything like that again he will risk not being allowed to take her for the weekend. What will you do when he brings her home at the age of 5 with a belly ring and a nose piercing. Having something done like this should have at least been discussed with you before hand and consent given. Stand your ground now or you are setting a path for the future that the father may do whatever he wants without discussion with you.
2006-10-27 11:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be too thrilled with a father who doesn't understand that those are her ears to decide whether to pierce or not and not his. You should also not be too thrilled with the person who thinks he has a right to have something done to your baby without consulting you.
If someone pulled that on me and my baby I'd dump him as quick as look at him and do anything possible to stop him from having unsupervised visits with the baby.
If there is any way at all that a lawsuit against him (or at least criminal charges for assault charges) could be brought I'd do that. He has violated your rights as the baby's parent, and I think you should find an attorney to see if you can pursue legal action of some sort.
I'd take the stupid earrings out of the baby's ears and hope the holes would close up in time.
2006-10-27 12:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be mad.
Although there's no medical reason not to ( http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/expert/bigkid/ghealth/ghygiene/70661.html?ccRelLink=&url=%2Frefcap%2Fbigkid%2Fghealth%2Fghearing%2F65857.html&xTopic=ghearing&bus=content ) , now you have to look after them and make sure they don't get infected.
I don't think restraining orders or lawyers (like some people have suggested) are really necessary. I don't imagine he did it just to tick you off. Don't overreact or he's likely to do the same. (I have a 14-y.o. step son and I've seen this first hand.) Just let him know that you don't approve and that you feel it's important that you talk about stuff like that first.
If you're really ticked about it take the earrings out and let the holes close over (although it might make it a bit harder to peirce them later if she choses to with a hard little scar bump there.)
Take care
2006-10-29 02:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people do it when they are babies because it decreases the chance of infection. On the other hand if anyone pierced my daughters ears (even her father) I would be furious! I think I would take them out. That is a huge decision not to consult you on. I chose not to do my daughters because I wanted her to be so excited and remember the day she got it done, (like it was for me)
2006-10-27 11:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by butterfliesbrown 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is Absolutely nothing to worry about. It is not too early to get your daughters ears pierced. I would however be upset with her father if he didn't discuss the ear piercing with you. It's a double edged sword since he has rights to her just like you.
Hopefully in the future he can discuss any major decisions with you before he makes them concerning your lil girl and vice versa. Good Luck.
2006-10-27 11:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be upset. You have enough to worry about with diaper changes, making sure your child doesn't get into anything, laundry, making sure your child stays healthy, your child's hearing and development, etc. I wouldn't want to have to concern myself with the possibility of an infection from the piercing or having to put alcohol on the backs and turn them. Yeah right...try turning the backs of earrings on an infant, you can barely clean out their ears while they are squirming. When the child is old enough to take care of it themselves, then get their ears pierced.
2006-10-27 11:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is disgusting. Ear piercing is a sexual symbol and is certainly not appropriate for a girl below the age of puberty let alone a baby.
You should see a lawyer and get the visitation rights reviewed in light of this and personally I would never never leave the child alone with him.
2006-10-27 11:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by TC 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not too early, but most places say to wait until at least 3 months. I would be upset because He didn't bother to ask, or tell you about it until you found out. Your both parents to that child, you should have made the decision together.
just make sure you take care of her lil ears!
2006-10-27 11:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
One thing you'll have to watch out for is her pulling on them, especially if her hands are dirty during those 1st six weeks due to infection and making sure she doesn't accidently pull one loose. He should have told you though, because she belongs to both of you and at that age it should be a joint decision. I think you should wait until the child is old enough to decide on her own if she even wants it or not
2006-10-27 11:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, i think it is disgusting how people get little baby's ears pierced. i remeber having mine pierced when i was 13 and how bad it sucked having to clean them and twist them and such.. i can only imagine how bad that would suck for a tiny baby. and it's all done for the parents pleasure. pretty sick indeed.
but yeah, i would be pretty mad at him and probably go so far as to hit him in the head with something large and painful.
2006-10-27 18:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by sanctified33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋