this is the deal I have this neighbor who is constantly wanting me to touch him. I say NO it's not right and I like your wife very much go have her touch you. he one day came over without knocking and grabbed my croctch I told him to leave i told my sister then my husband he said I should be flattered that another man finds me attractive. I was violated and he did nothing about it. My brother in law is the one who watches out for me now. what's the deal doesn't he care?
2006-10-27 11:06:36 · 41 answers · asked by tink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because he doesn't believe you. Or he is really a woman.
2006-10-27 11:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by Janna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either your husband thinks you are exaggerating, doesn't believe you, or he doesn't think it is any big deal, in which case, would freak me out completely! I would report him to the police, as mentioned, and if possible without costing a fortune, have a restraining order placed on him. Now, the second problem is the Mr. I would either have a very long talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel about him not defending his lady. If he, in deed, doesn't care, I would kiss that bad apple good bye and move on. Life is really too short, and do you really want to stay with someone that looks the other way when you are being violated?
2006-10-27 11:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if your husband does not care, you should. As you said, you have been violated.
Don't leave it to your brother-in-law to monitor, what your neighbor did to you is a crime, i.e. "sexual assault", and the police should be notified.
If the behavior continues, the police will arrest him, he will be tried in court, and punitive and/or criminal damages will be assigned. The court might also grant a restraining order preventing him from coming anywhere near you.
You don't have to take it, nor should you, and your husband should be ashamed of himself.
2006-10-27 11:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Hoops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call the cops, and how can he "come in without knocking" - your door should be locked. Maybe your husband doesn't care enough because you don't either.
File charges with the police, get a restraining order, and stay away from the neighbor.
2006-10-27 11:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's messed up.. but I've on many occasions had women grab my crotch without any prior notice..
Drunk girls at the bar think that because there girls they can do what they want.. but sometimes it's uncomfortable.
This A hole apparently thinks the same thing
Your husband should take initiative... if he grabbed you that's crossing the line and jumping back over it again and again.
oh ya and for all the immature kids out there, keep it to your selves
2006-10-27 11:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a pervert! I suggest that if he touches you again to call the police! Your husband may not understand how much this bothers you, but dont back down! If I were him Id be pissed! Sounds like he has a problem!
2006-10-27 11:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Tlahuizcalpantecuchtli (efrocha) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats so wrong. I cant believe he would allow someone to disrespect you like that. A man finding you attractive and a man being a pervert are 2 different things. Not flattering at all
2006-10-27 11:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoa - if some man came into your house and touched you without your permission then you should warn him not to do it again and if he attempts it you will call the police. Sexual harassment is a big deal.
If your husband is too much of a wuss to stand up for his woman then you need to knock some flippin' sense into him!!
2006-10-27 11:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Niko 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel alone...my husband acts as if he has no feelings about things like that, too. I think it's a self-esteem issue, at least for my husband. He sits there all stoic and doesn't defend me when things like that happen, because I think he believes that other men are better than him.
No guy has a right to grab your crotch, though, and your husband should know that.
2006-10-27 11:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With all due respect, what's wrong with your husband? I'm not the jealous type, but that's way over the line. If your husband doesn't care about this lack of respect that you are being shown, it's probably because he shows the same lack of respect to other women!!!
2006-10-27 11:09:28 · answer #10 · answered by JackoJohnson 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would call the cops and make a complaint, that will teach the lecherous freak something. I would feel so violated as well and your husband sounds like a loser.
2006-10-27 13:08:14 · answer #11 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋