My friend, nezzie, calls me every day! he jokes around and flirts with me all the time, but he doesn't want to go out with me. hes asked, be he was joking. i'm positive about that. What does it mean? What should i do?
2006-10-27 11:02:53 · 28 answers · asked by Look into the Air 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honey, it sounds to me like you are not so sure of yourself. Why else would you assume he was joking when he's asked you to go out? That's really taking a lot for granted, reading between the lines like that. He's your friend, right? Talk to him!!!
You don't say how old you are, but I'll bet you're probably barely a teenager. (If I'm wrong, please accept my apologies)
From what you've said, it sounds to me like your friend was probably clowning around when he asked you out because he was nervous and afraid that you would say no. That's what boys do when they are first interested in girls. By joking and laughing about it he's just protecting his ego and that allows the two of you to remain friends. So, I'd say he values your friendship and is willing to stay friends whether you go out or not.
If you are interested in dating him, just tell him so. You might start by mentioning the time or times he's asked you out. Tell him that you thought he was just kidding. Then let him know that you've spent some time thinking about it, and, "oh my gosh, I started thinking, what if he was serious?" Then tell him you think it might be nice to go on a date with him if he wasn't just joking and apologize for thinking you knew what he wanted when you never asked if he meant it. Don't make a big deal of the apology, you'll really be apologizing to yourself as well as to him.
Good luck!!!
2006-10-27 11:37:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ann F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to "nezzie" and find out why. If you like him, and he likes you then that should do it! Maybe he is scared of a relationship? You have to confront him about it. You don't want this to drag on until he might find some other girl. You never know until you try! Or maybe he doesnt know how to ask a girl out? He could be scared in general, but talk to him alone. Nobody around, just you 2. Friends always do that whole drama of "oooooo..ahhhhh" and that makes you or him/both feel uncomfortable! Just talk and find out for sure!
Hope this helps!
2006-10-27 11:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by CallmeDave 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
,the guy likes you. other wise he wouldn't talk to you every day. May be he's afraid you don't want to go out with him. Or he might not have the money for areal date. Here's your solution, invite him and two other friends one boy one girl,over for a very casual t.v/movie night. See what develop es, friendship or romance?Good Luck. but I think you already have it , make the first, but subtle move, then as they say the ball is in his court.
2006-10-27 11:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means hes messing with your head! one of my friends has a guy-friend and he constantly flirts and he knows she likes him. but he has told her that he dont like her like that. as for what u should do....hmmm.... well i guess maybe u could just not answer the phone sumtimes or maybe join a club so that he cant call u everyday....or u could disconnect the phoneline in ur house. ok jkjk about the last 1...
2006-10-27 11:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by cherryxblossom55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you like him and he is sub-consiously enjoys the adulation he gets from you. This is proving enough gratification so he doesn't see the need to pursue you. If you want to make him notice you, let him know how you feel and then stop picking up the phone when he calls. In other words stop rewarding the firendship status.
2006-10-27 11:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Al 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might just only want to be your friend so let him go at his own rate and maybe you'll be better friends one day and he will go out with u. there isn't anything 2 do but be a good friend. : - )
2006-10-27 11:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by henna<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might just be messing around with you but not ready for a comitment.
does he flirt with other girls? -if yes then he might really be into you and he is a player//imature.
but maybe he does like you and is afraid of rejection.
-ask him out. -worst thing he could say is no.
2006-10-27 11:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is he the shy type? It could be that he doesn't know exactly how to go about it. Is it a possibility to talk to him about this? It would be better then you could decide if you want to continue as you have or not.
2006-10-27 11:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means that he really likes you as a friend that is. I have a guy that calls me everynight, but we are just friends.
2006-10-27 11:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he really likes you but is unsure you will like him as a date. He's insecure, that's all.
No guys I know would invest that much energy in a woman without really liking her.
2006-10-27 11:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋