Why does my husband do this? please read.?

Question

Q1. How come everytime I ask my husband to do something he says i will in a minute or hang on a minute? and how can i fix this? Q2 How come whenever he is around his friends or family he acts like he is having so much fun even if he has had like 3 or 4 hours of sleep, but when I want to do something with him he acts like he is all tired and allways wants to sleep and i getting boring or bleek? and how can I fix this? Someone please help me.

Answer 1

he is very self centered

Answer 2

Sweetie, Thats everyone's Husband!

Ahahahahahhaahhhahahahah!

Hysterical,

You are boring and a pain, and bothering the hell out of him!

Ok - me need only 3 things:

Sex, Sleep , and FOOD


You are a woman and need a hell of alot more.

You must get this from your friends, not you man.

If you want attention, ignore him - he'll be chasing you, If you want him to fix it, try fixing it yourself ( put on a sexy bra and panties ) and break out the tool box and get under the sink

He'll think of that everytime you ask him to fix something. And at the very least if it isn't fixed you'll both have a good time right.

As far as boring BS- Stop feeling sorry for yourself, life is much worse than that. And gets harder.

Marriage is work, Work is work, Life is tough.

But its either sink or swim so get swimming lady.

And If you wanna seem less boring to him-

Get all dressed up, with some Come **** me HEELS, and he'll suddenly find the energy. do either do you, or do what you want.

But if he doesn't then just go out ith the girls and have a blast, flirt with some guys, and have a good ole time.

**** he doesn't have to be the one to entertain you.

You should know what you like by now right!

OH and a friend of mine once had a problem with the TV- Call cable and disconnect it, or you could simple cut the wire, or if your the handy sort , go to radio shack or home depot and ask them how to splice the cable, this way you can conect and disconect at will.

this will be easy, and he'll never know.

See if it works for you

Good luck

Meg
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Answer 3

What Kovasmomma says is very true.
Men are like children they need nurturing and to be made to feel they are number one, even though we know different.
The more you ask for help the more you will be ignored, so do it yourself and if you make a mess of it and he goes off at you just tell him straight, that you would have asked for his help but as usual he would not listen so you did not bother him this time. he he he it works
And if you think you are boring and bleek do something about it go out and get your hair done and nails done and buy a sexy little number and experiment with sex toys as that will get his attention and if not you can still have some fun without him.
Dont go on about how when he is with his friends he acts like a big child thats men for ya so play him at his own game, have some of your girlfriends over and have a blast, give him a taste of his own medicine.

Answer 4

Because he is married. Not just married to you but married. Married men feel trapped. They loose interest and sex dies along with everything else. I think marriage is the death of romance. People stop having sex and stop going out and enjoying each other. Then they just pay bills together and the wife wants the husband to do work around the house and he wants you to cook and clean and take care of the kids. It becomes dulls-ville.
It doesn't have to be this way but it often is.
How can you change it? First don't hit your husband up for things when he walks through the door after work. It makes him dread coming home. Maybe make him something to drink non alcoholic like an Arnold Palmer (Ice tea lemonade)or something refreshing. Beer is bad because he will be sleepy. Maybe a protien shake or smoothie and a little snack and let him take a shower and rest a bit. If you have some things that need doing make a list and talk about it once a week. Make them weekly goals post them up on a cork board where you both see them, and cross them off as they get accomplished. You both have to have a list from each other. Then have a date night. On that night go out alone and have fun. No kids no parents no friends. Take another night and make it boys night out and a girls night out. One for each of you. You can move that day but it can't be on date night unless you both agree to reschedule date night.
This way you will both have a life again and you will not stiffle each other. Make sure to have lots of sex on date night. This will help your marriage.

Answer 5

A1. It's a common problem. Just remind him patiently in a few minutes (if it can't wait) or in a few hours (if it can). Guys need patient reminders sometimes.

A2. He probably feels more comfortable and open with you than he does with his family. Comfortable enough to admit his weaknesses, and to let his guard down. It's not a bad thing. Try to talk to him and see if there are some activities he perfers to others... Perhaps you two could meet in the middle and do some of the things some of the time - while also leaving him plenty of time to rest and veg out. Maybe part of this compromise would be for you to go out by yourself while he rests - and plan something for the next evening for the two of you to do together.

Answer 6

Hmm how long have you been married?


I think that you should let him know exactly how you feel. These questions that you asked us should be asked to your husband. Then, after knowing what he tells you, either way. Do somethings by yourself. Go out without him maybe he needs to miss you lol I'm sure he'll miss you being around as much to cook,clean run errands, etc. Or hang out in a different part of the house or something all i'm saying is maybe yall should have a little more space that what it sounds like to me. But not tooo much space where you never see one another. Good Luck.

Answer 7

He's a guy. That's how guys are. You either have to give him the minute, let him know it's frustrating and then do it yourself, or start and see if he will do something about it. As far as the tired thing, everyone is more energetic etc. when they are outside of their home. Sometimes when a guy is at home he just wants to relax. Don't do anything drastic, unless you hate other things about him, because this shouldn't be a big deal. If you want to, try and make a deal with him or something else, or just start forgetting to do stupid stuff for him, but not to upset him, because there's no reason to intentially cause extra tension. However, after everything, the most important thing is to be honest with him, but really, all guys do this.

Answer 8

first of all you should be happy that he responds to you. More than likely he is busy doing something else and either wants to finish or get to a point where he will be able to stop and continue later. For the second question, he is putting on a show for all of your friends. He may be tired as hell and just wants to keep good apperances. Maybe the things you want him to do are not very fun and exciting. Maybe if you enticed him after one of these activities he would be more willing to do those activities with you.

Answer 9

Answer 1: Find out what the heck he's doing that you have to wait. If he's watching a game or doing office work then that's understandable. Regardless of how much we hate it, you can't get a guy to do anything when their sports is on..........short of the house being on fire. If it's a little thing your asking him to do, then just do it yourself and he will start to notice that you don't ask him to do anything anymore.
Answer 2: Well you need to outdo him in the fun department. If you have friends and family, have fun with them but without him and he will notice. Even if you just go to a movie by yourself to get away, he'll notice. Good luck!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

A1: Ask sweetly, and put a time frame on it. Also, give him time. ie: "Will you help me take the curtains down to wash them this weekend?" Then start getting the ladder, screwdriver, etc out, and say, "Honey will you come here and grab the other side of the rod, etc?" If he says "in a minute," tell him you need him now.(you're on the ladder, or attempting to set up the ladder) Give nice time frames to help set your boundaries. Another example: Will you mow the lawn before the game Saturday? I'll be doing the bathrooms.(offer the compromise and the things you'll be doing too) Or will you tidy the front bathroom while I get our master bath?

A2: Start being too busy for him. Start doing fun things and not inviting him. This is not to be mean, but to show him that you are fun, like to have fun, and will with or without him. If he is completely inflexible with you, then with diplomacy tell him that you've noticed a pattern of behavior that is troubling to you. Hopefully he hasn't meant to be hurtful, but there needs to be a give and take in every successful rel'p, and that you're not "feeling the love" in this area. As long as you're not trying to make him hang in the mall, nail salon or girl friends smoking on the porch, etc, then he needs to be more mindful of the fact that he is an involved partner and time with you needs to be carved out of your lives with that intention. (date nights or after-dinner walks, etc)

Answer 11

This man is your husband. You live in the same house, you see each other every day. You sleep in the same bed every night. Am I correct? O.K.

TALK to this man. He is not a stranger. You supposedly love each other. Have you attempted COMMUNICATION??!!

Sit him down and ask him the questions you asked above to total strangers. I think he could answer better than we can. If he has a problem with you, he should be able to voice that to you. Let him know you are not happy and you need some changes made by him. You deserve that from him and he should give it. He deserves the same from you.

That is called communicating with your spouse.