After me and my boyfreind had an argument i decided to take sometime to think things thru.and reflect on the relationship.he thot id wanted to break up so he got another girl but when i told him i wanted to talk and sort things out before we continue he told me he had another girl and explained he was too heart to cope with the pain so he rushed to get (rebound)someone to ease the pain ..since he thought it was the end of us after the attempts to talk to me failed. i love this guy but now the problem is he is in a dilemma.he texted me and said he would have wanted us to continue but because of the girl involved.its proving difficult as he is scared of breaking her heart.so thing is what should i do i love this guy to bits please advise
2006-10-27 10:22:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I think he is lying to himself if he really loved you as much as you do him, he wouldnt and couldnt have just gone out and gotten a new girl. He might be just trying to make you jealous. You might have to wait it out he and the girl might discover that he doenst really like her and then he will be all yours. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 10:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by Giraffe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps you can learn some lessons from this to communicate better. Sounds like you were playing head games with him - so he went on to do what any reasonable person would do, which is try and get over you and continue on with his life. Now the ball is in his court; if he wants you bad enough - he will break it off with the "other girl" and come back. If not - I'm afraid you will have to apply the lessons learned in a different relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-27 10:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's full of bull and he is not worthy of your love .. first of all if he was so broken up about it he just should of took time out for himself not jump into someone else's drawls. He had that girl in the wings the entire time and was looking for and argument to get out and get some new coochie. You be boo boo the fool if u want to , but ask yourself is he really worth it ? Or are u just feeling lonely missing the fantasy of what u told yourself how is so such a good dude but he is complicated blah blah. We tell ourselves those lies to make it seem like in our mind and heart that he isn't a jerk . He's jerk and believe me that new girl isn't so new she been in the wings all the time. Dump him and find someone whom is right. That's really selfish on his part you don't go date no one else after a week or two break up !!! Regardless of a heated break argument you just don't start no new relationship right away . He didn't give it a month what kind of a man is he.
2006-10-27 10:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE has to make something happen miss, not you. You may love him and he you, but if he's woried about this other girl's feeligs then he is the one that has to deal with it.
If he doesn't love her, then he has to tell her the truth. He should NOT tell her that she was a rebound girl tho!! Let me repeat....he should NOT tell her she was a rebound girl. THAT will hurt her more than anything else. It will make her feel cheap and used.
On the other hand if he tells her that he realizes that he simply doesn't love her and has to break away from the relationship.....that is hard, but it's understandable and she could conceivably cope with that. If he breaks it off AND tells her she was a rebound girl, that will scar her terribly.
So...he has to make the moves, but where ever he 'moves' to, he is the one that is in the position to voice such notifications.
Good luck to you, I hope it all works out for everyone.
2006-10-27 10:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm male so please take this answer with a grain of salt.
Frankly, he's a jerk. No, sorry, he's acting like a jerk. There were obviously some problems with communication between you two if he thought he had to go out with someone else "to ease the pain". Puh-lease! If he's that bleedin' sensitive, he's going to do the same thing to the women he sees now and afterward.
"Scared of breaking her heart"? What about you? He certainly doesn't seem to mind about your feelings. I'd bet you better than even money that if she wants to consider their relationship, he'll be back with you "to ease the pain". You can do a lot better than someone who appears to be shallower than paint.
2006-10-27 13:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sell off him - he's a loser. initially - if he became that heart broken over you interior the 1st place you do no longer purely flow out and get your self a sparkling female chum. A one evening stand in keeping with possibility on account which you sense low, your inebriated, and you have the 'properly screw her if she would not choose for to be with me' attitude. 2d of all - he's petrified of breaking her heart? provide me a injury. How long have they been mutually? Your placed up makes it sound very modern-day. Is the lady that for the time of love with him already? What an inflated ego. 0.33 - If he fairly enjoyed you he does no longer be together with her. era. He does no longer have began up together with her interior the 1st place and he extremely does no longer nonetheless be persevering with to be certain her if there became even a distant possibility which you 2 ought to artwork issues out. He ought to be doing regardless of he can to get you back - no longer any incorrect way around. This guy is a canines and thinks he can play the two certainly one of you. and you, expensive, are letting him. What he's doing isn't love.
2016-11-25 23:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by paula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is telling you what he thinks you want to hear, just incase it doesn't work out for him and the new girl. he is keeping his options open not wanting to burn all of his bridges, but if he would go out and find someone else because of an argument, than he is worthless, if you did take him back or maybe marry him, would he do this to you when ever there was a disagreement.you need someone who will be able to problem solve and work out disagreements, not someone who will cut and run every time things don't go their way.he certinly was not afraid of breaking your heart was he. go find someone else and don't go back to this one, he wouldn't be there for you if there were any serious things in your life.
2006-10-27 11:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly....forget him..i know it sounds hard but doable....you dont want to end up as a backup..if things get rough he comes back....whats stoping him from going away from you when it gets tough..the way i look at it is..he had problemwith you he foundsome one else..now he has problems with her...he will comeback...its a circle that never ends...
Some thing that you have to ask your self is...do you love him or love a person in your life...i mena do you really love him or love the idea of being in love with him..if you can answer this question and be honest to your self..you wil know what to do...if youtruely love him..just get up and never let him go...but make sure you are honest to your self..
the way human brain works is...we want what we dont have ....when ever there is a breakup...a woman tries to take the blame saying..its not you but me....i mean that is just trying to get over her own guilt and feel good...man does the same..its more of an ego deal...here youare hurt for he has moved on so easily...now you show despration to get him back..he might comeback...but think of the moments that you were in pain had fights...dont you think they willnever happen again....andabove all the guy has his head up his a*s as he knows you desprately want him back..men like what they cant have...and what they can have they never let go...they keep it around..never knowing when it might be usefull...i ama man..have friends who all do the same thing....always have one backup girl who you want say good bye nor will you say wellcome...just let her hange and use when u need it...
very bad and cheap..but its true..dont end up in that situation
even if you want to be with him...and decide to get backto geather..start from scratch...start dating..see eeach other only 2 hrs a day or so..like you first did , before the breakup or the dating or anything..see if you dont get tierd along the way or he doesnt..then u are good to go ..else find a new man..there are plenty of fish in the sea!
sorry if i said anything you dont want to hear..but this is my openion! :) best of luck on what you decide!
2006-10-27 10:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you, it would be easy for him to break it off with the new girl. I hate to sound so harsh but to me, that sounds like he's not man enough to just say, I've moved on, so should you. You know why? Be cuz, he needs to keep you on stand by in case the new chick doesn't work out.
Keep it moving, you deserve better.
2006-10-27 10:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long they have been dating... If he is worried about hurting her, then he has already moved on .. He would rather you hurt than the new one ..
He would have wanted, was the phrase you used. BUT... How can someone break someones heart so soon. How long were you apart??????
I am afraid he is gone, and it sounds like he is rather shallow to me.... and very quick to move into a new relationship.... not even trying to salvage yours....
2006-10-27 10:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋