i fancy this guy and he fancy me, he told me id cross dresses and would i like to meet her one day , i have no problems with that , but am worried that if i start a relanship wif him he might want to be o woman always one day . i love the thought of making love to a man one day than a women the next , but i want his tackle all there always help am confused
2006-10-27 10:07:10 · 15 answers · asked by chrissy b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
il answer my own question , hes very straight, and abit of dressing up just makes it all more fun
2006-10-29 01:08:38 · update #1
Compulsive crossdressers feel as though they NEED to dress up on women's clothes. When they do so, they feel sexual gradification, comfort and fulfillment. This is because the experience releases neurotransmitters in their brain similar to that experienced by addicts. So in a way complusive crossdressers are addicted to their habit.
A crossdresser will often work hard to create a female alter-ego and will even give her a name, and take on a different personality when they do so. The crossdresser will be in love with this female alter-ego. In fact, wives of crossdressers will often say that they feel as if they are their husband's second love.
There are other problems that wives of crossdressers experience. For instance, the crossdresser will want their spouse to encourage their crossdressing addiction by helping them look more feminine, helping make clothes, or just making love to them in feme. Most heterosexual women find this unappealing.
The brain chemistry of achieving the release of neurotransmitters to create the pleasurable experience gets increasing more difficult with age. When the crossdresser gets to be around 40 years old they will consider permanent gender reassignment. The crossdresser will have to decide whether or not to continue with their addiction, and do the extra work needed to keep up their pleasurable experience. Most will decide not to have gender reassignment, others will go with it.. In any event this period is marked by questioning oneself and depression. He will probably be seeing a shrink at that time.
My advice to you is to keep him as a friend only... There's way too much baggage here. You can help him out anyway you can, but date other people who would make better husbands and would be better models for your children.
2006-10-29 04:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gender identity and sexual orientation are two different things. Just because a man likes to dress like a woman, doesn't make him gay. Often cross-dressers are straight men. There are many gay men, who wouldn't think of dressing like a woman. I'm not sure if that helps you or not.
2006-10-27 17:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by wicked64 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cross dressing and sexual orientation are two different things. Yes, he can be straight. Lol, though, he's not actually going to change from male to female to male to female. It's only the clothes babe, and maybe a bit of attitude. That's all.
2006-10-27 17:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation indicates who we are attracted to, man on man, woman on woman... Gender is the sex we feel we are or who or genitles say we are.
If a man is 'straight' and is attracted to women then dressing as a woman will not change that. When he is dressed as a woman the world might call him a lesbian, but in reality, his base attractions have not changed, just our preception of them.
2006-10-27 17:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dress as a woman 24/7, and I'm perfectly straight.
2006-10-30 08:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Viki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when does cross-dressing have anything to do with sexual orientation? It is quite possible for a cross-dresser to be heterosexual. It is also untrue that all transvestites (NOT to be confused with transsexuals) have gender identity issues. Some male transvestites just like women's clothes.
2006-10-27 17:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are many types of men who dress as women. he must be honest with you regarding his future and his plans. he may be a crossdresser or transvestite which is primarily a heterosexual male who loves womens things. he may be a transgendered person who wishes to become a woman one day and is looking for solace from you. he may be a transexual who is starting on the path to becoming a woman. he is not a drag queen. most drag queens are gay people.
2006-10-27 17:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me put it to you like this, i am straight (male) and i dress MORE than 3 times a week, in fact i am a full time crossdresser. i am ALSO a pre operative Transsexual. i am on hormones and i have developed breasts. i have also had my tracheal shave done to make my voice more feminine and also to rid my self of one of the last vestiges of maleness (other than my penis). my final surgery is scheduled for august of 2007.
2006-10-28 13:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by newmichelle1959 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, 98% of all crossdressers are hetero, so stop worrying.
Second, your bi, congratulations!
Third, TALK to him and ask what's up. No harm in asking!
2006-10-27 17:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between a fetish which your guy seems to have and sexual preference. just go with the flow and enjoy it with him.
2006-10-28 00:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋