My ex was violent,aggressive and paranoid-He would leave me for anything for up to a week cos I hadn't cuddled up to him,or once when I asked him to hold the baby-
He was on it for 10 years and smoked it like cigs-He would accuse me of having a go at him when I hadn't actually said anything
We were married and 4 days after the wedding he threw his ring off cos I asked him a question about a motorbike.
He once pulled over on the dual carraigeway,took my baby and walked off with her 10 miles from home-cos he'd been screaming and I ignored him-I had no keys or phone.
I left when he started hitting my daughters
It was always 'bye bi*ch-Once he started screaming at me in a busy pub cos I had wanted to go for xmas lunch,and then told me to *uckoff and find someone else.
I got rehoused 200 miles from him and filed for divorce-I tried to maintain contact and I was told 'leave him alone cos I'm a fruitcake' so I did
I now have to allow him to see her at the contact center on 24th Nov
2006-10-27 10:05:41 · 25 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I couldn't fit anymore on the thing is I've got to take the baby to see him at the contact centre near where I live-I'm worried that he'll follow me or try to snatch her as he did once before.
2006-10-27 10:11:43 · update #1
There are about 40 incidents That I had to write down for my solicitor-I was only with J for a year.
2006-10-27 10:40:07 · update #2
paranoia is related to canabis
the violence and aggresion is probably him on a come down.
my friend used to live with a guy who would work nights. i never relised how much canabis he smoked until i went round to drop her bday present of. he woke up to get ready for work whilst i was round. he came down in a proper bad mood complaining and shouting asking why the **** i was there (it was about 2:30pm) i had never seen him like this. but then he rolled up a joint and he totally chilled out back to how he was every other time i had seen him.
the only time he was abusive towards anyone was when he hadnt smoked a joint for a while.
my mate realised he had to go shortly after and kicked him out.
your best off without him.
2006-10-27 10:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is the fruitcake. I dont think cannabis is his only problem. I wonder if you just don't want to accept the fact that he is not a nice man. Leave him alone, but he should be allowed supervised visitation with your daughter because SHE deserves it. No matter what he has done, he is her dad.
Good luck
2006-10-27 17:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just horrible.
A person will not do something while intoxicated (with alcohol or drugs) that they truly, truly morally oppose. If a person turns violent or slutty when intoxicated, it means that deep down inside they think it's OK to be that way.
Think about it, if you were drunk or high would you be capable of molesting a child? Stealing someone's wallet? Sleeping with a stranger?
Maybe you could but, if so, be honest. It's not that morally repugnant if you can do it while drunk or high.
2006-10-27 17:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by The Divorce Guru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The paranoia could be because of the cannabis, but the guy's probably a git anyway. Sounds like you're better off without - we're not all like that!
2006-10-27 17:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by somekindahero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know frm experience that the dope defo has sumthin to do with it,people who say that it hasnt obviously smoke it themselves.he sounds very insecure,low self esteem,very jealous cos hes so stoned and paranoid. well tuff **** o him i say. ur not on this planet to be treated like a worthless piece of **** r u?? think of ur ittle one more importantly. u sound as if uve got no confidence and low self esteem too. prob cos of him yeah? do u deserve that? do u want to fl the way u do 4eva? er nope. best time to do it is now. xmas coming,just think to urself me and litl one and family gona hav a wkd time. y dya nd him. do it girl!!! butter up buttercup!!hehe. u be ok :o}
2006-10-27 17:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cannabis is a big part of the problem but the reall fact is people like him cant love and dont know how to love cos they may not have been loved while they were kids. so they treat women like dirt and the cannabis makes it had for him to ever learn.
2006-10-27 18:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by micwillis22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More and more we hear now of cannabis causing mental problems - sounds like this is a prime example of just that. I wish you luck in settling into a new life without him xx
2006-10-27 17:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by starlet108 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy for me to actually say what is his poblem based on what you say. I can say this, that he obviously has a Mental problem that needs attention so he can get on medication and maybe that willl calm him and down so he can think rationally insted of going off on the deep end of things.
2006-10-27 17:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out with a guy for 3 years who smoked cannibis like it was going out of fashion he was an out and out parnoid fcuf if you are cautious you have every right to be
2006-10-27 17:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by lisac67mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not weed doing that to him. Maybe crack, coke, speed...that kinda crap will make someone do all that crazy stuff but nobody smokes a hooter and goes insane. you need to get away from him for your safety and your childs safety
2006-10-27 17:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by notyours 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋