I have been divorced for 2 years from my high school sweet heart. I have moved on. Im in a relationship I love my boyfriend but this is my problem. My ex-husband calls me to have sex with him. He is engaged and I like his fiance. I divorced because he was a cheater. Should I tell the fiance whats going on. I have discussed it with my boyfriend. Why would he continue to want to have sex with me? Neither of us were happy when we were married.
2006-10-27 10:00:27 · 16 answers · asked by theresa kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your really good friends with her try to talk to her and tell her the truth.. put yourself in her postion...wouldn't you want to know if your guy was cheating on you... and then let her deside what to do... but do tell her.. you don't want to hurt her in telling her al this but if you don't.. she will end up being hurt anyways later on in the future.. just be a friend an save her time to get rid of that jerk and also save her the time of going through those devorse papers and total process now before she has to get a divorse later on. she may be mad at you but she will get over it later on but it's for the best...she will understand when all this happens to pass and she is healing from the damage that guy caused her.
DO THE RIGHT THING!
2006-10-27 10:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by maria U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell the fiance. Hopefully, you told the rat b@st@ard to take a long walk on a short pier. Hopefully, he's quit asking now that you made it clear that the answer is not only "no" but "HELL NO!"
Face it, the fiance may or may not believe you. It may sour your relationship with her and, if you and the ex have kids together, she might take it out on your kids.
Just make sure you've established appropriate boundaries. Few ex spouses want to keep having sex. Are you sure you weren't communicating ambivalent feelings to him?
Of course, he's a cheater so he's the type that will try to get it anywhere he can but, still, remain firm and make it clear that you wouldn't sleep with him if he was the last man on Earth.
2006-10-27 10:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Divorce Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,what is the matter with you,did you ever hear of co men sense,your ex has a fiance,you have a Boyfriend you love,the answer should be easy,to hell with your ex,you fall for hem ones,don't be stupid and let hem do it again,stay with your Boyfriend,if you ask a Question like that I cant see true Love there either,clear your Head and keep your Legs crossed,and admire your Boyfriend ,he seam to be a good man,if he has to live with that situation,your ex is a dog,and he don't deserves to have a fiance,Karl
2006-10-27 12:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be good in bed!
why else do they call! unless no one else is putting out!
well first off i dont see why you wouln't want to tell the man your going to marry what are you afraid of! well unless you have something to hide!
he may get up set but that is where you come in and reasure him!
Trust, communication, and passion are the key elements to a great relationship
i would also talk to your ex and tell him to stop calling you i mean that can not make your fiance feel good!
2006-10-27 10:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is still a cheater. Some things never change, I guess. Don't get involved with his relationship, it's none of your business. She will figure out on her own that he is a cheater.
But make it clear to him that you are not interested.
2006-10-27 10:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to tell, you have to tell her indirectly. If you tell her, she is going to think you wanted to get something started so they won't get married, and as you may know, he is going to tell his fiance the same thing. You need to find a way of letting it be known, so that it gets back to her.
2006-10-27 10:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe, my guess he still wants to with you because he enjoyed that part of your marriage, and he feels your safe, and he might think in his warped mind that its not cheating because you were once married. That is a tough one. I would not tell her yet, i would tell him the next time he asked that if he brings it up again you will tell her and that should put a stop to it. if he is persistant then yes tell her.
2006-10-27 10:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by needingitnow342000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss it with your boyfriend, but the finance is dicey...and he wants to have sex with you because he does not care about cheating and he must think you are a sure thing.
2006-10-27 10:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why try and figure a screwed-up guy out? Just tell him no and not to mention it again or you'll tell his fiance.
2006-10-27 10:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by Maia B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't you want to know? Wouldn't you have been glad if someone had told you he wanted to plunk them before the two of you wee married? Of Course, tell her.
2006-10-27 11:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋