Ladies- A few months ago I asked my wife for a threesome. (Wife, Me, another Women) At first she said NO. A day later she said o.k. Than two day's later she said NO again and has not changed her mind since. Do you think that she will ever change her mind or should I just forget this fantasy of mine?
2006-10-27 09:55:14 · 16 answers · asked by Bill C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I told my wife if she wanted a threesome the other way we could arrange that. I am in no way GAY I just wanted to be fair to her but she said NO.
2006-10-27 10:03:08 · update #1
I have not asked since. I left it alone.
2006-10-27 10:04:19 · update #2
You have planted the seed, she might bring it up to you again. Otherwise I would just forget it and then you might be pleasantly surprised.
2006-10-27 09:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the fascination of wanting a threesome. Why do guys always seem to bring this question up? Have you been watching to many porn movies and that's where this all comes from? Put yourself in your wives shoes. Would you want to be in a threesome with 2 guys and your wife? If you're aren't gay, then I wouldn't think you would. It's the same thing for your wife. You shouldn't continue to bring it up. If your wife wants it to happen, she'll let you know. I don't know of any women who would actually want this so, stop asking her.
2006-10-27 10:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might change her mind, but if you push the issue, she'll just get more uncomfortable. She may wonder why you want this or feel that you think she is inadequate in bed. You might want to try renting a movie that has a threesome scene (not a porn) and see how she feels about it. Give her some time. If the idea stews around in her head for a while, she might decide she wants to try it.
2006-10-27 13:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just forget it. all it will be is a fantasy. she is probably thinking what the hell is wrong with her that you have to go to another woman to be satisfied. she is probably also nervous that you will start to cheat on her with the "other woman" and not just when there is a threesome. how would you like it if your wife wanted a threesome with you,her, and another MAN? think of it that way!
2006-10-27 10:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something the 2 of you really need to sit down and discuss...not just pillow talk either. Think of all the consequences that may come with it...the pros & cons. The obvious pro would be you able to see your fantasy come to life...ever think of what she ends up preferring girls to you? These are all questions you both have to come to terms with. Do not jump in just for the sake of experimentation.
And remember to set boundaries as to what is ok and what is not. She may only want you to watch her with the other girl and if you do get involved it would only be with your wife. Like I said you must have complete trust and great communication with each other if you want to travel down this road.
2006-10-27 10:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might make her uncomfortable, because even though she will be there, it is you and another women. I wouldn't push it, she might just have said ok because she fears losing you. Instead, come up with another fantasy that only involves her. Maybe you two could watch some good porn, or incorparate toys? Give it a try!
2006-10-27 10:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget about it u maybe making her think that u don't what her anymore and u are just sing that threesome as an excuse to be with another women just let it go and forget about it
2006-10-27 10:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should take no for an answer and not keep bringing it up to her..women look at sex as a totally different thing then men do..if you are married and she is like alot of women(myself) then she probably will never really mean oit if she says yes...she will want to make you happy but to share your man is not something you want to do and you asking her to makes her feel inadicquate ..you probably unintentially made her insecure about herself and what she means to you and her ability to please you sexually..she probably thinks she can never satisfy you...if you want her to include someone else in your marriage or spice up your sex life their are other ways..i would never do a 3some I refused when my hubby asked however you can watch a porn show or make your own..i was skeptical at first and felt uncomfortable watching porn but then he asked to video us and this i allowed ..and that helped fulfill a bit of fantasy but with me not another woman..good luck and talk to your wife there are ways to spice up sex life without making her feel inadequate or uncomfortable...maybe sex toys or teddies if you two talk things out she will feel better then you just throwing ideas outthere that she feels are insulting..if she truly loves you, which she does, she wants to please you ..its just a matter of finding the comfort zone for her and you
2006-10-27 10:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for the sake of your marriage you should forget about it. Would you do it if she asked for a threesome (her, you and another guy) ??
2006-10-27 10:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she doesn't know what she wants right this minute. My advice would be not to pressure her maybe just tell her again this is something you are interested in and when and if she is ever interested or ready to let you know. Then leave it at that. :)
2006-10-27 10:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsay B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋