It's very common for people who define themselves as heterosexual/homosexual to occasionally be attracted to the other gender, or to experience passing attraction to the other gender and then outgrow it. But that's not the same as someone who has been consistently attracted to one gender their entire lives. Someone who is attracted to one woman for every 20 men and declares herself bisexual is not the same as someone who is consistently attracted to both genders. So isn't it time to stop labelling ourselves as hetero/homo/bi and instead accept that sexuality is a gradient and everyone is different?
2006-10-27 09:34:15 · 13 answers · asked by randiradio 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I totally agree. A person's sexuality, no matter what it is, is a natural thing and we need to stop trying to define it. It's like asking someone what the exact definition of true love is. Everyone's answer would be different. The heart wants what the heart wants, and we need to stop trying to package it in neat little definitions.
2006-10-27 09:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I once read a book where they would actually give their gender percentage. Obscure Arthur C Clarke story...
So someone would be a 70% male, meaning they were 30% female.
I thought it was kind of cool, since I recognize that I'm not 100% male... Maybe 85% or so. But it's still just another label huh?
I guess part of the problem is that no matter what, people like to be part of a group in some ways.
2006-10-27 16:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with labels, it is how we define howselves and other people. The problem is the way people interpret labels. I am a homosexual or a heterosexual defines something about you, the same way as saying I am a fireman or a lawyer.
Each of the labels will invoke a different response in people, many people dislike lawyers the same way many people dislike homosexuals.
We must learn to not form an opinion about people based on words like the above...we should form our attitudes based on words like warm caring, fair, generous, loving, self-fish, dishonest, cold, hateful.
We must learn to judge people by the right words.
2006-10-27 16:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how do you explain yourself in this case without labels then? If those words didn't exist, would everyone be required to be everything? I'm not really sure if I'm explaining myself very well, but how is someone supposed to explain that they aren't attracted to someone based on gender without such descriptions. There is a difference between a "description" and a "label". Saying someone is homosexual orientation isn't the same as labeling someone as "queer". In that case, is sexuality at any level considered a label? Are the pronouns he and she "labels"? Are we going to refer to everyone as "it"? It all depends on how androgynous and same you want everyone to be...
2006-10-27 16:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by januaryblizzard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you wait til after my book comes out? Sexual labels of the 21'st century? I feel like I need a dictionary to keep up with all the new words and labels people come up with. I've never heard of a heterosexual/homosexual. People have a tendency of labeling themselves. I'd be willing to be that that term wasn't coined by a straight person. So people stop labeling yourselves if you don't like it. Geesh!
2006-10-27 16:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree.
I predict that 100 years from now, as human reproduction becomes secondary to human fulfillment (as it should already, with the rate of population growth), people who call themselves strict hetero- or homosexuals will be considered odd; most will vary between 90/10 to 50/50, one way or the other.
2006-10-27 16:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never saw it this way, but I think you are right. I completely agree that most people have their moments (some more than others). With your post you reminded me of a friend that would say that all girls have at least one "go gay girl" even if they were not lesbian, bi, etc.
2006-10-27 16:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen! Labels put people into boxes, lets break out of the box people!
2006-10-27 16:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jazzys_mom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sexual labels, political labels, ethnic labels all of them are dangerous ways for one group to feel superior to another. In a perfect world they would all dissapear.
2006-10-27 16:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by toff 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No we should not! That's your prerogative if you choose to experiment with all sorts of deviant sexual behaviors...but leave off of that! But men are it for me...
2006-10-27 16:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by incognitas8 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋