We got our marriage license this week.I begged him to get off dating sites.No comment. He's still on.I took my profile off but when he didn't I put mine back on.When we are together we get along great, he calls me and says he loves me and i can see it in his eyes. Why the need to contact women? He lives in a homeless shelter [w/internet access,nice,huh?].I've known him 4 yrs.We lived together 3 yrs.I booted him out becuz of his lying and mental abuse.We tried therapy but i had to go along with him or he'd lie to the therapist.He's a mess,huh?
2006-10-27 09:27:28 · 22 answers · asked by Debbie Ratliff 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Honey, why on earth would you want to marry someone who was abusing you mentally? I was in my first marriage for 14 yrs and I suffered with mentally, emotionally, and physical abuse. My second marriage ended when my husband died after we were married 9 months but would abuse me emotionally as well.
I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 4 yrs. We met through an online dating service. We have lived together for 3 1/2 yrs. He used to go to dating service sites after we were together and I told him that makes me feel like I am not good enough for him. He has stopped, he removed all of his profiles.
If your guy will not remove his profiles or stop going to those sites then you do not need him. You need to find someone who will love you for who you are and not treat you like dirt. If he lied to you once he will do it again. I can tell you right now he is not interested in being married to you because he loves you he is wanting to marry you so he can get out of the homeless shelter. He does not really care about you. He may say he loves you but honey love is a 4 letter word that is easy to say and tough to mean.
Move on and don't let this guy drag you down. He is a mess and there is no reason you need to mess up you life for the likes of him.
2006-10-27 09:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much what's wrong with him, you know the answer to that one: plenty. It's what's wrong with you for going to get a marriage license with this guy. If you don't trust him before getting married, booting him out, his need to stay in contact with other women via the internet, etc., there is no way you're going to be able to trust him after you're married. Getting married is not the magic bullet to solve all of your problems. It's like buying a dress that costs 10 times as much to return, once you've brought it home and discovered that it's full of holes and doesn't even fit. Give it some serious thought before going through with marrying this loser. You deserve better. Good luck!
2006-10-27 09:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by slowfreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your marriage license in vain and for the wrong reasons. This is nothing but a wake-up call to things to come. Don't be surprise if on your honeymoon; he steps out for a long breath of fresh air; or for a pack of smokes. Break it off now; it may hurt initially, but in the long run you'll be thankful! Besides; you can do bad on your own; you don't need him to do that for you!
2006-10-27 09:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The (Boy) has not grown up and you both sound kind of immature.I would suggest that you dump the boy and move on with out the boy.The boy needs to see a shrink and also stay off the drugs.He is already cheating on you just being on-line and talking to other females.MOVE THE LOSER OUT!!!!
I have my share of ladies and I tell you shove that turd boy back in the sewer.
2006-10-27 09:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by Fang the Spartan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with him, its you I'm worried about. The same issues you kicked him out for before are still clouding your glasses, it's time for you to open your eyes, and see Mr. boy for who he really is...........not for you. What you see in his eyes is another attempt to fool you. he sounds to be addicted to the chase and won't give up the internet dating. so move on with your life before he saps it all from you with his back, and forth don't become his security blanket, by providing all the things his shelter does. you cannot buy, or shall I say should not try to buy his affections they only last as long as the money does.
2006-10-27 09:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wise up young lady and find your life without the trouble.
Life is to short to put up with these kind of problems. Good Luck.
2006-10-27 09:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by flying bug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help! Alot of help and you shouldn't subject yourself to that abuse. There are many guys I mean real MEN out there for. It will be hard but also the best thing you can do for yourself and your future kids.
2006-10-27 09:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've answered your own question. "He's a mess, huh?" Why not go with your gut feelings? You know he's bad news. Maybe it's time to re-evaluate this relationship, and consider letting him go. He just isn't right for you. Please don't marry someone that you have such strong negative feelings about.
2006-10-27 09:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!!!! If a guy is lying to you and mentally abusing you, you don't have time for it. There are other men out there.
2006-10-27 09:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by CarolinaGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter what is wrong with him, you can't fix it, so get out while you still can. You are deceiving yourself to think that if only you did something better that he will get better.
2006-10-27 09:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by xorosho 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋