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Question

on-line sex...in you opinion...is it cheating or an enhancement to masterbation?
Please explain, if you can... your answer..

Answer 1

UF study finds more marrieds using Web to 'cheat' on spouses

Married and bored? You're not alone. Hundreds of Americans are and they're doing something about it by clicking over to their favorite Web sites.

Not Web sites about hobbies, vacations or the latest painting techniques at the hardware mega-store.

Instead, they rendezvous in sexually oriented chat rooms, the kind that attract other bored and, sometimes, married individuals who are looking for cyberspace thrills they're not finding at home, according to a new University of Florida study.

"The Internet will soon become the most common form of infidelity, if it isn't already," said Beatriz Avila Mileham, who conducted the research for her doctoral dissertation in counselor education at the Gainesville school. "This is becoming more and more common."

Counseling organizations report chat rooms are the fastest-rising cause of relationship breakdowns, and the problem figures to only get worse as the world's population of 650 million Internet users increases.

"People discussed things about themselves that they would not normally discuss with their spouses or with someone that they would have an affair with face to face," Mileham said. "The anonymity of the situation provides a safety cushion. People view this as very non-threatening because they're not facing the person."

Because of that there's also rationalization for the behavior. Almost everyone in Mileham's study said they felt no guilt because they had never touched or met with the person they were chatting with on the Internet.

The practice, according to at least two local mental health counselors, is rampant.

"I have run across this many times," said Timothy McNeil, an Ormond Beach family counselor. "There is a lack of connection amongst spouses. The longer you know someone, the harder it is sometimes to be honest with them."

McNeil said that besides not getting what they need at home, many married people also feel depressed and turn to sexual chat rooms in order to get the adrenaline rush that comes with doing something forbidden.

"It's easier to go into a chat room than it is to go into a barroom and meet someone," McNeil said. "I have several folks right now that are in deep trouble because of this."

Kathleen Menocal, a licensed clinical social worker in DeLand, said she has seen too many marriages and families crumble because of online infidelity.

"There is a lot of loneliness, resentment and anger on the part of many of the people I see," Menocal said Thursday. "It's sad. I've seen breakups. I've seen men and women leave their families."

Yet the Internet isn't all about ending relationships.

Nancy Buckingham of Hightec Internet in Port Orange said she met her boyfriend online eight years ago. She said flirting with people on the Internet allows a certain degree of control.

"People can sit behind that keyboard and be whoever they want to be," Buckingham said. "I'm not surprised about this at all. A lot of the people who subscribe to our service are interested in the dating Web sites."

Another advantage to virtual trysts is the ease in which they can be ended, Mileham said: "A simple click of the mouse button stops contact."

But while that can cut down on the risk of a movie-like fatal attraction, online affairs aren't without consequences.

"My sister got a divorce over this," said Brady Upchurch, sales manager of Bad Boys Computers in Orange City. "She was married for 20 years, but she was bored. She started talking to this guy on the Internet at 2 and 3 in the morning when her husband was asleep.

"She told her husband about it," Upchurch said. "She got a divorce, she married the other man and moved to Arizona."

Cheating Hearts

Some findings from a University of Florida study of online infidelity:

· 83 percent said they didn't consider their virtual affairs to be cheating, though studies show spouses feel just as betrayed.

· 30 percent of those interviewed went on to meet their online sweetheart

· 98 percent hid their liaisons, often waiting until their spouses went to sleep to go online

You wouldnt want someone to do it to you why do it to them
ENHANCEMENT TO MASTERBATION IS A COP OUT !

Answer 2

I think it depends on each couple, you have to talk with your partner and make clear rules of what is cheating and what is not. Now a day the lines are so thin between cheating and just flirting and enhancement to masturbation, like you say.

Answer 3

I guess if it's your thing it could be an enhancer. As for cheating, well that's a bit of a grey area, difficult to say, it would have to depend on the people involved in the relationship and how they see it. Myself personally, not into it at all, I prefer the real thing, just not into cyber.

Cheers

Answer 4

If you are using it as a source of dirty thoughts, a sort of composed-as-you-go written erotica, then it's just the same as reading erotica or dirty stories, watching porn, or using your imagination- just words to get you off. You don't care who's on the other side as long as they keep it coming. A partner can get mad at you for using it, but the same would have to be said for other types of jack-off aiding materials.

If, however, you have a friendly relationship with this person and bring online sex into it, it's cheating without a doubt. You are basically having relations without the person bodily with you. (By the way, for some people, even having that friendly relationship without the sex can be considered cheating- an emotional affair). If your partner is okay with you doing so, it isn't cheating (I don't know if it would fall under polyamory, really), but if they don't know, it certainly is.

Those are my thoughts on it, at least.

Answer 5

That depends on the situation with the couple.
If you choose to go online instead of being with the one you are "with", it's cheating.
If you are by yourself, or your other half doesn't mind, it's simply an enhancement.
Cheating is determined by the people involved in the incident because each couple has the right to define their relationship as they see fit.

Answer 6

It is an enhancement to masterbation not cheating in my book.

Answer 7

Sure it can be an enhancement to masturbation... if you are single and have no one else to help with the enhancement. But if you are with someone, then hell yes it is cheating!! :-)

Answer 8

I think that if you are "cybering" and there is an inidividual on the other end involved as well then I think this would constitue as cheating if you are in a relationship. If there is an orgasm involved and intimate talk then I would consider it cheating. If you are NOT in a relationship then it can be whatever you want it to be!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

It's cheating. Because you are having an intimate moment with someone other than your significant other. Cheating is less about sex and more about sharing yourself with someone else.