I'm really targeting a more mature audience where both partners are old enough to be dealing with mid-life crisis issues and with kids in the picture. Anyone's answers are welcome!
2006-10-27 09:14:18 · 6 answers · asked by OU812 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it can help and in our case it probably did save the relationship. We went for counseling in our mid-thirties. We had 5 children and lots of stress. The issue it really helped with was communication. We had come from such different backgrounds that we just weren't communicating. As an example, my husband grew up in a family where people beat each other up when angry, so he thought he was full of virtue for only screaming and pounding walls when mad. I grew up in a family where people sat and calmly discussed things so I though he was about to kill me when he screamed and pounded walls. The counseling helped each of us see how the other viewed communicating and helped us find a way to meet in the middle. I think it's worth a try.
2006-10-27 09:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by jonahbeast 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling doesn't save or damage marriages, it helps mediate and helps couples sort through their issues and gives you skills to improve communication and to understand and validate your partner's feelings.
For a marriage to work, both of them need to be commited to make it work, to do the homework (yes, there will be homework) and to stop the destructive behavior that is breaking up the relationship.
Bottom line, if either of you don;t want to forgive, stop behaviors and is not willing to break the vicious cycle.. then the relationship is ultimatly doomed.
Good luck
2006-10-27 16:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it helped us last longer than we otherwise could have.
it is such a struggle to make it through the situation you describe.
i was helped by a book called "getting the love you want"
and also by taking up a personal practice of yoga/meditation which helped improve me as a person which in turn helped the relationship. The biggest thing is to stop blaming things on your partner and take resopnsibility for your own needs & feelings.
now that i don't think my partner is supposed to make things ok for me anymore my relationship is wonderful. of course the kids are gone now so that makes it 100 times easier.
2006-10-27 16:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it didnt work.
I was divorced with mutual consent with my 1st wife after 5yrs. of marriage and remarried with a girl of 35yrs, who was unmarried before.and i was 45 then. Now we dont have any child but from my 1st wife i had one kid who is now staying with his mother. We all are quite happy now but miss each other.
2006-10-27 16:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No Because she expects me to change , But she isn't willing to change anything Herself .
2006-10-27 16:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by spazdogrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,she wouldn't take it seriously.Now where divorced.But the kids and i are happy,hope she is too.
2006-10-27 16:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋