My better half is giving me less satisfication these days and wanting me to give him all the satisfaction. He wants me rub his anas with my fingers, etc. and to give him oral while doing it, etc. I think he would rather give me anal than vaginal sex as well but I haven't let him because it hurt too bad when he tried and quite honestly all this male anal stuff is freaking me out a bit. Is it just for his pleasure, is it that good? I feel like everything is better than my vangina because he seems to like oral better. Ok yes it sounds a bit like he just selfish too but what about all this anal? I guess it is no big deal but what do you think?
2006-10-27 09:12:12 · 16 answers · asked by Tess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes he touches my anus a lot more now days too. No I don't really mind pleasuring him in anyway but I do need some satisfaction myself too! Yes I have worried about him being gay! Silly?
2006-10-27 09:20:18 · update #1
FYI: I have had sex talks with him OVER & OVER! He always promises to do more but it doesn't last. I am the man in the relationship! I am super horney and want sex all the time!!! But he seems to only do it to shut me up is the way I feel a lot.
2006-10-27 09:22:07 · update #2
Yes right below the balls before you get to the anus he says feels great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
We have been together for 11 years now. He mentioned when we were dating that he and his friends (not him he said) tried oral. I never questioned or mentioned it ever again! I thought it was a test or something because he has always been quite obsessed with me. We are always together and everything. But his sexual drive is zero so when I do get some I want it to be good but then it seems like only he gets satisified and I am left to myself. When we were dating we did oral and stuff all the time! We didn't have sex until we were married and he nevered seemed to care much about it. I wanted to have it non stop on our honeymoon and he though a couple of times was good enough.
2006-10-27 09:34:27 · update #3
I make a joke about him being gay and he got really mad the way I said it to him. Not that I called him gay but the way I was talking to him.
2006-10-27 09:40:09 · update #4
Why would a guy want to go through the closed back door when the front door is open? Be afraid....be very afraid!
2006-10-27 09:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tess:
Men and women a like develop fetishes and I have learned over the years there are endless things that people will develop to be a fetish. Anal is very common and it seems your lover loves it. .
You should probably communicate to him your feelings his anal addiction and see if he'll meet you halfway and or concentrate on pleasing you in the manner you desire.
I will tell since I have a fetish (not anal) as well, chances are it will be part of his sexual finger print for the rest of his life unless he and only he wants to change it.
If you really love this guy I encourage you to try be as anal and oral as possible under the special condition he will give you what you need when you need it.
With practice and the right lubricants Anal can be very enjoyable with both parties.
2006-10-27 09:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heaven sake! Think about it women, It's not a gay thing (well maybe for some) but it's a tighter hole!!! Don't think I would be comfortable doing it though! I have heard rubbing them in that spot does stimulate them, but haven't tried that either. I know it's hard, but try to back off on the sex (since you are getting little to any pleasure out of it anyway) and when he asks what's wrong (and he will) tell him until he can focus on you more, you don't feel like having sex that much.
2006-10-27 09:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me answer this honestly:
All men at some point of time definitely dreams of anal sex with their female partner! Yes, we like the female nether region and the hidden crown :)
But your partner's wanting anal stimulation on himself and mostly going for oral sex seems a lil fishy! Let me ask you this - does he gives anal stimulation to you these days?
Well, if you have known him for quite sometime and have had a healthy relationship, then I would suggest you give him a lil time; men go through various excitement stages! But if he continues.....well, then you know then what it means, right??
2006-10-27 09:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by life_is_rhythm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your boyfriend does sound pretty selfish. Like him, you have desires that should be fulfilled and aside from that fact, you should not feel obligated to participate in any sexual activity that makes you feel uncomfortable. This is just a suggestion, but I think that you should have a long sex talk with your mate and let him know how you feel. Communicate your desires and expectations of him, allow him to communicate his own, and maybe from there the two of you reach some sort of compromise. Until that happens, however, I feel that a full-blown SEX STRIKE is necessary!
2006-10-27 09:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just recently got into anal a lot more? Honestly, he might be gay or at least he had sex with a man...no, that would still make him gay. Good sex takes 2 people, and if all he wants to do is get his and he isn't worried about you or your wants, you'll never have good sex with him.
2006-10-27 09:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of men like anal stimulation. But it sounds like you've already decided that he's being generally selfish in bed, and that's another issue altogether. You have to get off too. You'll have to just talk to him about it and let him know you're not satisfied. It sounds like you don't mind playing with his butt...lol...but he needs to take care of you too. Work out an exchange or something.
2006-10-27 09:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Out He May want You To Massage His Prostrate While You are giving Him Oral. As Far him Inserting into Your A@@ LUBE LOT'S OF LUBE. And Tell Him To Go Slow.
2006-10-27 09:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't do any of that. I would tell him if he wants anal to go over to a buddy's house.
Try some time when he is close to cumming...press right below his balls...sort of between his balls and his butt. See if he likes that better. That might even sound nasty, but supposedly it gives a guy an explosive orgasm.
2006-10-27 09:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its normal because guys also feel stimulation in the anus so dont be afraid he's not gay. He probably just found out he likes how it feels and wants to feel it. I think you should just let him know how you feel.
2006-10-27 09:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Deception 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some what i think its just something that he enjoyes you know like a cl it feels well they guys something like that in there backside! and it feels really good! we have it do but it's not that good when we got other parts!
i'm with you i don't like anal! it is a little selfish but communicate this to him or be silent and let him try to read your mind! oh wait they won't try! lol even with a selfish attidue they won't try!
so talk it out! tell him how you feel!
2006-10-27 09:21:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋