i left my job today, and some people in work didnt even say bye?

Question

i have worked there 3 and a half years never had a day of sick, done 4 months notice for them cos they really wanted me to stay so they said then its the last time i will see them and they didnt say anything about me leaving not even good luck with your next job i have never had an argument or spoke about anyone behind there back and we always got on well am young and quite quiet but, only the younger people in work said bye and to keep in contact, but my boss who i have done everything for and put everything into work and never stayed off said nothing am feeling pretty sad about it cos he said if i stayed on for longer he would appreciate it but why is he being like this

Answer 1

I think you have done well to get out of that place. I would be extremely upset if my work colleagues failed to say goodbye in a proper manner. I hope you have more success in your next work environment. I think it may be lesson to you to realise that you have been badly used by your ex-boss and should put yourself first in the future.

Answer 2

It's not that they are jerks or anything, some people just have a difficult time seeing a good employee go. They probably didn't want to get all choked up about you leaving so they just kept to themselves. I know when I left my last job because of an injury I sustained there, only 4 people said good luck and the rest of my so-called friends were happy to see me leave this way, I didn't have to keep on them about the rules (I was head of Quality Control). I was not in a very likable position. I still keep in contact once in a great great while with the few people that I had made friends with there. Just don't take it personally it isn't that they didn't care that you were leaving it is just that they were probably having a hard time with you leaving.

Answer 3

For the present, just forget about it and let it go. As for the future, you can't expect your job or your co-workers to be your source of joy in life - it's just a job and they are not your friends. There's a difference between friends and co-workers! Do your best each day and at the end of the day, leave work at work. Find a source of joy and happiness outside of work so that when things like this happen, they won't bother you so much. Remember this at your new job since being the new person isn't always easy! You can't take how people at work treat you personally - everyone always has different issues they are dealing with at any given time that have nothing to do with you. Remember who your true friends are and the people who care about you - they are the ones who are there to support you.

I worked at the same job for 9 years and like you, I rarely ever missed work for any reason. I gave it my all and at the end of that 9 years, I got no good-bye or anything on my last day. I moved on and put it behind me and you should do the same.

Answer 4

Don't take it personally! People are probably just sad that you're leaving.

This happened to me once. I worked at a small co. where the owner was involved in EVERYTHING (didn't know how to delegate). He hired me to help him, but I got frustrated by his control-freakness and after 2 years I quit and gave 2 weeks notice. I scheduled an appointment to meet with him on my last day to turn in my laptop, etc. He didn't even come to the office that day! I called him several times on his cell phone and he kept saying I'm on my way, I'll be there in an hour, etc.

Meanwhile, everyone else at the office said goodbye and was nice to me. I think the owner was unprofessional by not meeting with me that day, but I think he felt bad that I was leaving since he ran every single aspect of the business and maybe took it personally that I didn't want to work with him. Some people can't separate their personal life from their work life. Anyway, I never saw him again but I still talk to 2 friends from that office.

Take the good advice from the other answers, people can act strangely and it's not your problem to figure out why. Just move forward and enjoy the progress in your career. God bless.

Answer 5

I think most above have just about said it all, i've just one thing to add.

You can chose your friends, but to a large extent you can't chose who you work with.
If your lucky maybe a few of them will become your friends and you'll have them for life but the others just become people you once worked with, nothing more.

I left acompany a few years ago and only keep in touch with 2 people out of maybe 50, it's the way it works for everyone.

Look back with fondness, make sure you leave on good terms and thank EVERYONE even if you dont' mean it, it looks good to future employers.

There's also a lesson to be learnt here and you'll remember it for next time.

Answer 6

good luck on finding a new job. Second of all remember one thing when working at any job. You have no friends and the job is strictly business. Be social, but keep it professional because the job and the people don't give a damn about the employees. Keep striving

Answer 7

PLEASE don't take this personally. It's not you.

Parting with someone at a job is an uncomfortable situation and for some reason, espeically for older people. It's happened to me a lot too. It's not you. People get like that when they're not sure what to do, so they do nothing at all. They can act like that when there is a death in your family too - it's just an odd quirk of human behavior.

And, "good luck on your new job!!!"

Answer 8

Any company is always disappointed to see a good employee leave, but I agree it was bad form for them to not make some sort of gesture. Among your coworkers, there is always the possibility they are jealous - you are moving on to bigger and better things, while they are stuck in the same place. I had this happen when I left my last job - others were thinking about leaving, but hadn't put any effort into searching for a new job, so they sort of took out their frustrations on me. That, and the manager started denying vacation requests and blaming it on me - didn't make me very popular!

Answer 9

Keep your chin up it's a poor reflection on those who didn't say bye . Move on to better things , some may wish they had the guts to leave and don't perhaps there is a hint of jealousy here , don't worry about it. Your friends said bye the others were not true friends.

Answer 10

Yes I agree. You are too good to work there any longer. Try not to take it to heart but I know it feels like nobody cared. Never mind that, its plain rude,bad manners. Just shows how small minded they all are. let someone else have the benefit of your work who will appreciate you. Good luck with that in the future.