know your future partner well enough to run for cover if they turn out to be incompatible on a daily basis. It also protects the woman from just shacking up forever since the guy has to decide to commit or not. What do you think of this idea?
2006-10-27 09:04:11 · 7 answers · asked by OU812 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally I think it's a great idea. I am newly married and I think it would have been better had we lived together on the pretenses you mentioned because now we are trying to get to know each other in a day to day home relationship and it's really hard. The little things (emotional, physical, petpeeves, ect) can stack up and you can feel overwhelmed by the questions of "how come I didn't know that??" When the answer is in plain sight. How could you? So yes, I think it's a pretty good idea because of personal experience.
2006-10-27 09:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kata 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that living together before marriage is a good idea at all. people here in france do it all the time. i agree with you that it's better to have a wedding date set before they do that but I still think that they should wait. I have a friend *not naming names* who was convinced (not by her boyfriend) to move in with her fiancé before they were married and she had a breakdown (she was really stressed from everything) and now it doesn't look like they're going to get married... if they had got married in the first place i don't think it would have happened...
I also have friends that moved in together and never moved out... and they're not married... I think that people should get married before they make that sort of commitment.
2006-10-27 09:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by mmmb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the old standard of having to married to be "truly a couple" has phased out..it just makes a higher divorce rate..whether or not you have a marriage certificate or you have a date set doesn't guarantee that you will be compatible or incompatible i know of many long strong marriages that have wonderful couples but i also know many couples that just live together that aren't married and are very compatible ..i think its the decision of the couple and that marriage sometime is seen as just a piece of paper...and that true love can be achieve through either method it depends on the couple..and a family is more then a marriage license alot of people never get married and have raised wonderful successful children as well as married couples do...its all about the people themselves not the legal issues..i think if you believe you should be married to live together then that's whats right for you ..but if someone doesn't believe they have to be married to live together..then that is whats right for them...everyone has their own views of right and wrong and we should be concerned only about if we are doing whats right and not whether our neighbors are or not...your reference to man proposing and setting a date doesn't truly mean they are willing to commit some men (and women) tell you what they think you want to hear to get what they want..i think whats important here is that you and your mate are on the same page as far as commitment goes whether its documented by legal paperwork or not
2006-10-27 09:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Justifying living together by getting engaged. Doesn't make it any better, if you have a problem with that sort of thing.
Face it, if you believe you should wait till marriage, then wait till marriage, anything else is still wrong.
Now if you believe that it best to live with a person before marriage, then live with them...no need to justify it.
And if you've already slept with them or someone else...all that is null and void and no longer matters.
2006-10-27 09:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I disagree. Commitment = commitment = working things out, not running away when there's an issue to deal with. It doesn't protect anyone.
2006-10-27 09:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely live together. There was this show on TV today with the host Greg something....... he asked the audience the same question......... majority answered yes....... each might have some bad habits that need to be repaired..........
2006-10-27 09:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by bonbon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We lived together right before marriage!!
2006-10-27 09:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋