Well, me and my bf just recently moved into our new apt and of course we are having a lot of sex. Now, before we were in the apt, we had the best sex ever, I gave him oral and he gave me head too. Now that we are in the new apt, it seems as if I am giving more than he is. We usually always take the time to make sure that the other is satisfied to the fullest.
He has been slacking in that category and I mentioned it to him yesterday night. He thinks I am wrong is letting him know how I feel about that.
What do you guys think about this???
2006-10-27 09:02:49 · 17 answers · asked by yagurlbubblez 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay look people!!!! Me and my bf been together for 1 1/2 yrs now. We always had a good relationship and to me and him, sex is a big part, so if something is slacking period, I feel it is good to let it be known. So no, this relationship isnt just about sex, but it is important to me. Thank You!!!
2006-10-27 09:45:02 · update #1
I think that you need to be able to talk with him about these things if you all are going to have a successful relationship, but men often get very offended at being criticized in this area. And, unfortunately, these things usually change after moving in together or getting married. You guys could do something really silly like playing "tag" in bed or seeing who can make each other scream before counting all the way to 10. Me and my husband do all kinds of things to keep the flame ignited. Good luck.
2006-10-27 09:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know how long you and your BF have been together before the move into a NEW apt.. Also, were you both living in an apt. together before? You are right for communicating a concern but, you may be making more out of it than need be. Maybe your BF wants more intercourse now, maybe you are giving alot more (excitement over having a new place) and he giving the same as before.....either way...give it some time and if it still seems like the oral sex is uneven then have another 'chat' with you BF.
2006-10-27 09:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by mauilvr98003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no! wrong in letting him know come on please sounds like someone is getting selfish. ITs simple to me you just stop doing it for him unless you've already gotten it and tell him thats the only way you will or just do it to him less often or dont get as into it he'll see the difference and be sorry of his actions and if not ? you'll have trouble and it will all just dwindle away fast, relationships are a lot more than sex I hope that wasnt the only way you got along. Good Luck!
2006-10-27 09:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he finally realized that your really not that good after all. Maybe it was only you having the "best sex ever" could be that he was hoping for things to change. But the only thing that changed was the location. If someone really loves you then making love in a dumpster is great, not the best location, but never the less love is what prevails..........he doesn't love you, and your constant nagging isn't going to arouse him any greater. Your lousy in bed and he can't find the words to tell you....sounds simple to me based on what you've said. You think better of yourself then he thinks of you...face it
2006-10-27 15:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the newness of the relationship ran out. It happens and there is nothing wrong with that.
The real question is, "Is that all that was ever really important in the relationship to you?" Maybe you should rethink the whole thing over. Maybe that was why your bf was upset. Maybe he took it wrong when you talked to him about it.
2006-10-27 09:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lucinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think telling him was the right thing to do. He probably feels bad that he was called on it. Next time you guys have sex, see if he responds be catering to your needs better. If not, then direct him to what you need. Don't give up girl, you'll get it!
2006-10-27 09:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him tell you that you are wrong because if you don't say something now it's just going to bother you and then other things will start to pop in your head. always and I mean always ask what ever it is that you are not happy with don't let him tell you other wise
2006-10-27 09:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by runawayocean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ability to communicate is very important. You did the right thing by talking about it.
2006-10-27 09:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it was good of you to tell him how you felt. That is the only way to get results. And he should not be mad with you, say to him, I hope you would not be mad with me, I hope that if I am not doing anything thing right, I would want you to pull me up on it. Because I want to please you at all times.
2006-10-27 09:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe its just the stresses of moving in to a new place etc, leave it for now let it cool down then if it continues try having another word with him ;o)
2006-10-27 09:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋