2006-10-27 08:58:35 · 10 answers · asked by txnanagrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hm this is a hard question could you elaborate more. How long have you been married, has he always been this way?
All I can give you is that there may be many possibilities such as that he could have a medical condition, he a quite man, he may be an agry man, or just a private person.
only you know what you should do, if this is unacceptable behaviour to you, you need to discuss this with him and quit enabling his behaviour. there has to be mutual respect in a relationship .
you need to repect your husband's privacy and he needs to respect your trust and commitment by opening up to you when it is needed. Spouses shouldn't tell everything, but there also be a respect ( for lack of a better word) or understanding that one spouse or both could talk about anything and everything if the need should arise.
Have you talked to your husband about his rudeness, are you willing to compromise? I know it's hard, but sometimes you have to be the one to compromise on issues even when you don't want to. Understand that maybe your husband isn't just unwilling to change, but perhaps you are asking of him more that what he is able to give perhaps he just doesn't have it in him to understand and see things the way you do...
Talk to someone about this, and be honest and open with your husband in a loving way. Instead of using " you" statements, use I statements, such as
" Honey, you always do this, don't do it, you are so rude and you embarass me."
Change your statement and put on yourself , it sounds like you are less blameing and more accepting of him.
" Honey, I love you but I feel very uncomfortable when ..."
hope this helps....
Try to keep your lines of communication open, and that doesn't mean demanding, comminication means understanding and a little leway given to your spouce...
2006-10-27 09:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either under a lot of pressure at work or whatever, or he is doing something you have been blind about. You really must approach him at a calm, quiet time, and take his hand and say, "Honey, I love you and need to know what you feel, and what is going on." If he won't respond to that, then he does have a REAL serious problem. It sounds like he is having an affair, but maybe not. Maybe life's pressures are weighing heavy on him. Only YOU know him well enough to know how to get him to talk. You can do it!!!!
2006-10-27 09:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he need to be distant and secretive?
You do take up all his time with things he is interested in right?
He has no reason not to share he's needs and desires with you right?
He knows that he is appreciated and loved and can talk to you about anything without fear of rejection, belittlement or an argument, right?
2006-10-27 09:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be rude and distant too.
2006-10-27 09:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definitely be very direct and to the point with him. sounds like he has something going on he doesn't want you to know about.
2006-10-27 09:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by ericlexus69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave?
2006-10-27 09:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by 'Cause I'm Blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him.
2006-10-27 09:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2nd that If he don't straighten up get out.
2006-10-27 09:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be just as rude to him as he is to you
2006-10-27 09:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Treat him the same way he treats you..............he will learn eventually..........
2006-10-27 09:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋