I don't feel like my husband pays enough attention to me when we are with other people. For instance, at a bar, he will not stand by me, or talk with me, or get me a drink, as though he forgets that I'm there (He will get me a refill if I remind him). I know that he loves me, but I'd like for him to perhaps be more affectionate towards me when are in a public place. Any suggestions? Thanks a million in advance for y'alls help!
2006-10-27 08:45:28 · 11 answers · asked by BeezKneez 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you haven't talked to him about it already - do so soon! Perhaps, lay down some simple and clear guidelines for him to follow; for example, don't say - "I would like for you to be more affectionate", but instead suggest that it is a polite thing to do, and would mean the world to you, if he offered to get you another drink when you were done, or if he spent more time in close physical proximity to you.
If you have talked to him, and things still haven't changed - well, maybe it's just his style. If he treats you well in general, perhaps you could just overlook and forgive the minor "transgressions" that have to do with his personality.
Try suggesting places to go to that are more conducive to talking and "hanging out" together - like a restaurant instead of a bar, a concert, a play, a movie.
2006-10-27 08:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will share with you my situation and maybe what what my wife does will work for you or at least the concept.
My wife has a fetish about wearing vintage nylon stockings with reinforced heels and toes and a garter belt with open shoes, and wears them suprisingly all the time.
I'm only married a yr and half and when I first met her I thought this was an odd throw back to the fifties pin-up girl type look.
Is what i noticed over time is she recieved a lot of attention from both men and women, whereas it was a converastion piece so to speak.
A lot of women liked the look and several think its a fashion fo paux. Is what I did notice is MEN loved it because they knew she was being very sexy underneath and often a stranger would come up to her while she was with me and say. I like your stockings or I love your stockings and shoes.
wwell that drove me crazy with jealousy at first because she always get so much attention from men. So trust me when I say now I stick very close to my wife, why because men think she is very sexy and hot. and trust me my wife is okay looking not a model type look, all her allure is the attitude she carries when she wears her fifties fashion fopaux style stockings with sexy high heel sandals.
so Is what I'm say put some attention on you to draw attention by being "sexy" and the bees will be drawn to the hoeny and watch how fast your husband will be a bee keeper.
2006-10-27 16:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this. Avoid bars. Have himtake you out to dinner. Not in a gin mill either. Pretty hard to ignore someone when they're sitting directly across from you at the table. If that doesn't work...come see me. I'll be glad to carry on a conversation with you. No physical stuff though. i'm saving myself for the right woman.
2006-10-27 15:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you need to remember is the the key to a good marriage is communications. So the person you need to be talking to is your husband. Tell him how you feel, ask him why he does not stand with you, when you are out, say are you ashamed of me? then why you are not more attentive to me, when we are out. What is the problem? Say I love you, and I want us to have a strong marriage,
2006-10-27 15:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can get involved in the conversaiton, that way you can feel part of what he is talking about and paying attention to. Stand next to him and hold his free hand when the group is talking. I'm sure you will not feel left out that way
2006-10-27 15:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Wibble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more affectionate towards him at home. What goes around comes around.
2006-10-27 15:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dress up really HOT, so you're the most attractive woman in the bar. when he notices ALL eyes are on you, he'll pay more attention to you.
2006-10-27 15:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know you need to express this to him!
i'm sure he isn't a mind reader!
Remember
trust, communication, and passion are key elements to a GREAT relationship
communication!
sometimes it can be hard to communicate but in the end it is well worth it!
2006-10-27 15:48:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your concerns and see how he reacts after learning what you want from him. most guys I know never took mindreading 101 in college...
2006-10-27 15:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by burnttoast97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him what you just said to us.
2006-10-27 15:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋