Scared of labour?

Question

I feel really scared of the fact that I have to go through labour in 3 months time.. I don't know what my reaction will be the moment when "it's time". Should I undergo epidurals.. these at least will take the pain off my mind! Have anyone tried them?

Answer 1

I'm not going to lie (as I am sure others have told you) but labor hurts like hell. It is honestly the worst physical pain I have ever felt BUT I've done it 2x and would like to do it again. Why? Because the pain goes away the moment the baby is born and while it hurts it really is a beautiful thing and the love and emotion yu feel for your child MORE than makes up for the pain. I had a shot of stadol (sp?) w/ my first and while it didn't help the pain it made me very sleepy so I could rest. The 2nd time around I had nothing. I asked for an epidural both times but that seemed to scare the kids right out of me :o). It is very scary everytime but you will get through it when the time comes and you will be OK. If you feel the need for pain medicine do not be afraid to ask for it - that is why it is there. I wish you luck and congrats on the soon to be!

Answer 2

I don't think anyone's ever ready for the experience of labor. I'm getting ready to have my second child (it's been seven years since my first one and I'm not 36 wks) and I too am terrified. However, all I can tell you is that everyone has different experiences. Try not to listen to the horror stories. As for epidurals and pain meds - all I had was a little bit of Nubain with my first child and that was it. I say wait and see how you're handling the pain. If you need it, ask for it. That's your choice. In the mean time, try to relax and just remember you're going to have a beautiful baby when it's all over with and that's worth it.

Answer 3

Of course it is going to hurt, but it won't be as bad as for you to not be able to take it. The truth is I was more afraid of the epidural injection then I was of going into labor. Once the time comes, it'll progress slowly and it'll give you time to adjust your mind. You'll find it very helpful to start walking as soon as you feel the first contractions. Since labor takes usually hours, if you're feeling your contractions far apart then go for a walk with someone down the block. That'll help speed up the delivery plus walking will be more comfortable than laying on your back.

Answer 4

epidural is a bad idea, you should take into consideration that they can cause harm to your spinal column even paralyse (sp? lol) you. i gave birth to my son 6 mo. ago, at dialated to 9 *emergency* with a pain killer called nuebane (yet again, i know no the spelling) i have a very very low pain tolerance and that was enough to dull the pain. the worse part about labour is pressure (pushing relieves) and contractions. if your like me contractions are nothing as the feel like really bad menstral cramps and some of us are used to that. it is scarey but once is started its not so bad, try not to be so anxious, work out a plan with your doctor. for me pregnancy was worse than labor, but everyone is different. (nueban 2 shots, one in the i.v. one in your hip, that way you get instant and when it wears off the other will kick in)

Answer 5

I had three kids all natural no epidural with any of them. with the first they gave me some pain medicine through my iv and it only slowed down my labor. with the other two i had no pain medicine of any kind and the labor went pretty fast. I was only in labor about two hours with one of them. I thought the pain of getting the iv put in was worse than labor pain. having a baby feels kind of like being constipated and the stomach cramps that come with it and you use the same muscles to push the baby out as you use to have a bowel movement. Its really not as bad as a lot of people would lead you to believe. Don't worry it will fine.

Answer 6

I defnatly understand wher you are coming from. I have had 2 pregnancies and 2 labours. Its nothing to be affraid of, no it can be the most feared thing becasue you never know when it will happen, how, or where. its the unknown we fear. my first pregnancey was the easiest and labour was a brease water broke 4 hrs later my daughter was born. I did have an epideral 3.5 hrs in to my labour beasue i got scared, my 2nd pregnancey was a little diffrent for it was twins with a misscarage of a triplet at 6 weeks. the pregancey other than that was easy. the labour was Hell. I started having contractions at 32 weeks and they stoped them and sent me home and i woke up again that night having them 2 minutes apart and when i to the hospital the contractions were off the charts!! i ended up staying in the hospital for a week going home for a day and my water broke 45 minutes after being home from a dr apt. what made my horrible labour so great was my dr. you have to have a dr that you can talk to, trust, and will be there. my dr was suppose to be going out of town when my water broke on friday befor labor day, he was at the hospital within 2hrs of me arriving (we acctualy called his house) and never left my side. he sat in my room with me and my family to assure me that every thing was okay. and after preforming a sussesul c-section at 33 weeks he didnt leave untill he made sure that i was ok, had seen my babies, and knew what was going to happen.

Answer 7

I have to go through labor in about 1 month and a half and im pretty scared i had an epidural w/ my last son and it did not work but i had a bad doc but i heard they r pretty good

Answer 8

Ive had three children and all of them were natural childbirth. personally, iwas afraid of the epidural. they can give you what is called a twilight shot. you will be awake and mildly medicated for the pain. childbirth is a beautiful thing and i had a good coach. that really helps. go to classes and educate yourself more on childbirth. one thing that my coach told me was this, once the labor starts, don't fight it. ease your mind and go with it. its not so bad. when you get upset and panic, it can prolong the labor and cause more problems. I know it not easy to ease your mind, but, you have to really try. its important to do so. also, walk as long as you can before you let them make you lay down. walking helps. my grandmother always said to walk your child into this world. it really does help. best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Hon, we were ALL terrified!
It hurts a LOT--I won't lie to you, and at times you want to quit, or rip off your man's head!
But when you touch that soft little baby, and hear those ear-splitting wails of health, the pain will be a distant memory.
And yes--if you can't do it without help, get the epidural.

Answer 10

The best thing to do to get rid of the fear is to educate yourself. Find out what to expect and maybe visit a labour ward. It really isnt that bad. Once it starts you dont have time to think about it too much :D And its true what they say, once you hold the aby you forget about the pain! Good luck