My best friend thinks that we all have gay tendencies at some point but I dont agree....I mean none of my other friends are remotely interested in their own sex and my boyfriend is mr. heterosexual.....or do they just hide it???
2006-10-27 08:41:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
In my opinion, no. It's like that saying "Everyone is a little bit bisexual.". I firmly believe that there are one hundred percent heterosexuals who would never find anything sexually arousing about their sex, and homosexuals who will never see the big fuss about the opposite sex. That's just them.
However, I do believe it is very natural and very common for most people to go through a questioning phase, to experiment to just see if they might like it, who find each or the 'other' sex to be attractive, but not for them (the way many straight women can comment on the beauty and sexiness of other women without feeling a desire to sleep with them), etc. And I maintain that love is gender blind- a straight man can fall in love with another man, enjoy their sex, but never be aroused by any other men than the one he is with.
That's my opinion, at least.
2006-10-27 08:49:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing that can be applied to "EVERYONE".
There are people who are one hundred per cent heterosexual, people who are one hundred per cent homosexual. However, it's very common for people who identify as one or the other to occassionally be attracted to the other gender, or have fantasies about the other gender. It's also very common for these same people to have had passing attractions, or even an actual preference, to the other gender when they were going through puberty, and then outgrown it.
I don't like it when people say that EVERYONE has "gay tendencies" because that's just another form of generalization and categorization. The truth is that everyone is different.
Now as to whether your friends are hiding it--that depends on what they mean when they say they are "not remotely interested" in their own sex? Does that mean they would never consider a relationship with their own sex? Does it mean that they are not interested in acting on attractions to their own sex? Do they mean that any attraction they have felt to their own sex is so insignificant compared to the attraction to the opposite sex that they don't think it counts? Or do they really mean that they have never once, in their entire lives, felt any sort of arousal at the look/thought of members of their own sex?
So no, we don't ALL have gay tendencies. Depending on how many friends you have, it's possible that none of them have ever had bisexual feelings. However, if you get a random sampling of 100 heterosexuals and they ALL claim they've never been attracted to their own sex, some of them are lying.
2006-10-27 16:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by randiradio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not go as far as saying EVERYONE perhaps but I suspect "most" people have been at least curious at one time or another.
Of the straight lads I know in my home town, over the years I would say around half of them have "had a little chat....." and ended up learning something new.
Perhaps the Midlands just have very broad minded guys - but I suspect a similar level of interest elsewhere - and in females too.
The "just hiding it" is probably a pretty understandable thing to do if you reckon you will be judged for your thoughts.
To say "none of your friends are remotely interested" makes me wonder how you know that. Have they mentioend this to you in confidence on a 1-2-1 chat - or when someone said "erre, do you know any queers" they were most keen to deny all knowledge!
See what I am getting at?
There are PLENTY of folks who would, if put on the spot by a casual friend - deny any interest/knowledge in something like this - but might give a VERY different answer to a close friend they KNEW they could trust to be discreet and non-judgemental.
Hope that gives you a little food for thought :)
2006-10-27 15:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mark T 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people who are not gay sometimes feel attractions to people of the same gender. Sometimes, but not often.
But since most heterosexuals believe there is nothing worse than being a gay man, most men suppress it.
It doesn't seem to be the same with women, though. French kiss another girl, and you'll have celebrity status. As long as you're both thin and attractive. Ugly chicks just don't rate.
Sorry, I know it's messed up, but I don't make the rules.
Human sexuality is complicated sometimes, isn't it?
2006-10-30 18:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Angry Gay Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are people who believe they are strickly one way or another,and I believe others after a long period of being so called gay and nothing else become strickly gay.
But I also know from life that many believe themselves strickly straight until they give in to a flirty bi or gay,and then to a lesser or greater extent they also become bi or gay.
Anyone is capable of appreciating certain aspects of these lifestyles,and if their own so called normal lifestyle is dead then they are apt to become completely involved in the alternative.
So yes I believe anyone and everyone has this,and yes many hide it,and as you can see on here the hateful words which is nothing like it is in real life over countless years-they hide their orientation for a good reason.
2006-10-27 16:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Psychology graduate, and we discussed this in one of our Sociology classes. All of us do feel a degree of attraction for our same-sex friends. It depends on whether we act on these feelings or not. Gays and lesbians go all the way on this. Bisexuals don't go all the way, probably because they've had fulfilling heterosexual relationships before. Straights don't delve into these feelings of attraction at all. The conclusion of this being that homosexuality is a choice, not a genetic flaw of sorts. \m/
2006-10-27 21:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stricktly speaking, I think that most people do not have gay/lesbian tendencies but they definitely have the capability to express themselves in a bisexual manner, especially men. I think most men are bisexual to some extent.
2006-10-27 18:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all people have homosexual tendencies . Thats just a gay urban myth.
2006-10-28 02:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, between 10 till 15%.
2006-10-27 15:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
only if they take this into consideration for themselves. Because the case is; letting the possibility that it can happen to you free in your mind, and starting to discuss it openly with yourself...One with too many taboos (personally or morally) can't cope with that for it's a hard thing to come over.
2006-10-27 15:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by ddyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋