So, we all fight, right? I would like to know who usually breaks the silence in your marriage/relationship when you fight and stop talking to each other ie. Your spouse or you.
Why is it that way?
Thanks and hope you are all having a wonderful friday.
2006-10-27 08:37:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We dont fight but when im angry about something he has done, he usually tells me to talk about it. He doesnt like to fight. I like that about him. We havent had one fight since we started dating. Good Question!!
SJ
2006-10-27 09:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have to agree we all argue from time to time.
I don't think it really matters who is right or wrong, however in the end you know that no matter what you are able to disagree and that each will have their own opinion and that Okay.
Silence is something that I call a cooling off period, when you know the conversation is going no where and it is in the circle effect>>no point just keeps going.
I really don't think it should be about whom will break it, however is the topic or was it that important in the first place.....If you are clearly able to see this factor then why not be the one....after the cooling period that is.
Best wishes
2006-10-27 09:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it is almost always me, my husband is a little stubborn and is perfectly okay with going to bed anger. I can't do that, I lose the ability to sleep if I am upset. Basically, I keep him up until we figure it out. We have talked about this and he has started making an effort to be the one to "break the silence".
I think things are this way because he believes that we can just work it out in our own time and I have to handle right now at this very moment.
2006-10-27 08:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do almost every time. I think she has come to me once or twice in the 8 years we have been together.
She believes in giving the silent treatment and I get over things much faster than she does.
I am okay with this because I know now how it is. It bothered me at first but that is how she does things. I love her, faults and good parts.
Take Care.
2006-10-27 08:40:33 · answer #4 · answered by RJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually do, because my husband says he doesn't want to say anything to me to upset me anymore than I already am. So he waits until I say something to know I'm over being mad. Even if he started the argument. We don't fight very much, but I usually get more upset because I don't like to argue at all. So when we do, for some reason, no matter who started it, I usually am the one to end it.
2006-10-27 08:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband, most of the time when I give him the silent treatment it is because I don't want to fight anymore and I really don't want to say something that will hurt him and damage our relationship by saying something that I don't mean just to make him madder. (Most people, when they fight, say things that they don't mean right, I am just trying to avoid that). He usually breaks the silence because he can't stand it when I walk away and close the door to regain my composure, he thinks that I am just abandoning whatever it is that we are disagreeing about.
2006-10-27 08:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee breaks it most of the time, but i have started to lately because it's only fair. The other person can only do it for so long before they give up on always being the one to give in. a relationship is equal and it's a give and take both ways.If you love the person and want it to work out you will give in at times to.
2006-10-27 08:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yes we all fight!
i really don't do the silence thing we talk most the time we agree to disagree! but we let that stuff go!
but i'll say 50 50 because sometimes i just don't want to say anything to him but itn'ts not that i'm mad!
2006-10-27 08:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends who started it. the other person normally has the straight mind to stop it. i would simple tell him not now we will talk when u cool down and vise versa.
but truth be told mostly my husband, i think he is more practical where as i am more emotional.
crying helps too. if i cry he cools down.
differnt fight differnt ways to stop
2006-10-27 08:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I fight,we got in huge argument every time,she gives me silent treatment,so does I,after months married,we filed for divorces.
2006-10-27 08:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋