lets say you get raped while walking your dog at night, you get pregnant, this is by now way your fault, no way!
2 months later you still have the baby inside you, it is the rapists, the scum of the universe i may add!
now, the baby is 2 months in your belly, most of you would have an abortion, correct?
but let's say you don't, let's say you do the christian thing and say this baby was a blessing from GOD in a bad way, let's say.
okay.
you have the baby at 9 months, perfectly healthy baby girl, let's say
you will obviously not blame the princess for her fathers actions.
you love her, life goes on and you have a beautiful baby, no father around, but now a days woman can take care of themselves, isn't that better than having an abortion ladies?
please be civil.
2006-10-27 08:36:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i would have the baby and love it its gods gift to you
2006-10-27 08:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by bonkers13642 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Although I do not think abortion is right this is the one instance where I could understand someone having one.
Sure you have people who would look at the baby as a blessing in disguise but at the same time what about those who can not get past the pain of being raped and try to lead a normal life again - what if they resent the baby they decided to keep. What if it is constant reminder of what happened? What if the person can get past it but still the child is a constant reminder. Not everyone deals with things like this the same way and the innocent child could end up paying the price for what his/her father did.
Under no circumstances, except MAYBE this one, would I ever have an abortion. But faced with this sort of dilemma I do not know how I would react - nor do I ever wantto be faced with a decision such as this one.
2006-10-27 08:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by R R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you have some mixed emotions and let's say that you are truly looking for good advice; I'd say that this is a very private decision that probably only you could make. I'm not sure how much religion plays into your factor but me personally....I couldn't have a baby for a rapist. It seems that it would be a constant reminder of the most terrible event of my life. The baby's life would be full of lies the moment he/she asked "where's my daddy".
I'm sure you wouldn't want him/her to know what really took place. I just see a life of therapy for you and this child. However, if you see having an abortion as being more of an emotional and/or physical trauma than having a baby for a rapist than maybe you should go through with the pregnancy.
I think I would sleep better at night living with the fact that I had an abortion. The most conservative person should understand that. You were raped and as a result got pregnant.
Either way, you'll have issues to deal with but nothing that family and really close friends can't help you get thru.
I wish you well.
2006-10-27 08:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a very hard question! I think that it would depend on how the new mother could handle it. I agree that abortion is not the best way to deal with it. why would you want to give up something that is a part of you? People make mistakes, so forgive and move on so you and your baby can have a happy life. That baby girl needs you, and i bet that you need her. did you tell the police? I think that you need to! the rapist need to be locked up and de-spermed!! No one should ever have to be put through that again. I was always taught " what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" So be stronger, keep you head up and keep running. I bet that the baby is beautiful!!!!
2006-10-27 08:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is BS! Im totally PRO CHOICE!!! Yes it can be a very sad thing to terminate a pregnancy, but would you want to be told you were the product of a crime and your father was a disgusting rapist. Also all the hormones that are involved during pregnancy and the whole postpardom issue... have you ever heard of resentment? No it is not the innocent "baby's" fault but come on, this is not a perfect world by any means. It's scary enough to bring in a wanted child to this craziness of violenca and war we live in. It would be another messed up unwanted innocent child running around this place. Yes i realize there is adoption, and all the power to someone who will face lifes obsticles, but the bottom line is... sometimes its more selfish to bring a child into the world, esp an unwanted one. Yes this world is a sick place, and it is sick that abortions are legal, but it is what it is.
2006-10-27 08:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
With all respect you - or I - have absolutely no idea what it would be like to be in the shoes of the person you describe. Especially since most of us are sitting at a PC in our comfy middle class homes a million miles from women who may hang out in bars or city centres and run the risk of getting raped.
If I were to make a judgement I would need to talk and listen to people who have been in that situation and also children born into that situation. Any other opinion is a pretty empty one I think.
2006-10-27 09:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless I actually walked in that person's shoes. I really couldn't say what I would do. I know women can take care of children on their own now a days but this is also a constant reminder of that horrible crime. Some people cannot handle or accept it emotionally and others can. Really it would be best for someone that has had that happen to answer that question.
2006-10-27 08:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the baby is not only a blessing form GOD but he has also half of your genetic information. There is so much of the mother on him, so that is another reason to love.
Ladies, abortion is not a "right" for the simple reason that it is contrary to the real right to live of the baby.
2006-10-27 08:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by mfacio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The life inside of you did not make a choice to be there. It is an innocent child that is the production of a power issue not a sex issue. Love the child, hate the situation. No I wouldn't have an abortion.
2006-10-27 08:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Pippin67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends largely on the financial, emotion, psychological/mental maturity/independence of the mother. If she was 16 with no job, has trauma, cannot take of herself let alone a baby, an abortion would not be such a bad idea. If she was matured, financially independent, truly able to care for the child herself and had "closure" from the trauma then giving birth would not be such a bad idea.
2006-10-27 08:52:19 · answer #10 · answered by not 30 yet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off...I would say the baby has no father becuase any sicko who does that has no right to be called a father...second I would probably have the baby...its not the babys fault, look at it this way...a blessing came from a very bad ordeal! And if this has happened to you. I'm sorry and take care of your baby!
2006-10-27 08:41:39 · answer #11 · answered by a_ybarra03 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋