im 13 and my mom wont let me sis go to town and she's 15 and she wont let me go cus if i do she has to too ( but girls do stuff and are weaker) she says its busy and dangerous but im going with like 3 friends and im tall and strong and have a pocket knife . we were going to cinema and play guitar thats all in the Dublin City Centre ( which is not New York or dangerous) help me make my mom let me go A.S.A.P im going tomorow and i have noting to do for the holoween .....
2006-10-27 08:22:15 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh yeh i forgot my other friends posh and a momies boy and his allowed ?!!! and im responsible
2006-10-27 08:32:23 · update #1
the comment 'make my mom let me go'. No one can convince your mother to let you go and do anything - except you.
I actually have 3 kids - a son 26, and 2 girls - 15 and 18. My youngest daughter is most relevent to your question. She is presently trying to 'convince' me that she is old enough, mature enough, to start studying the driving book so she can get her liscence early - I am a single parent (mostly) and I don't drive so that should probably mean that I'd be more agreeable to her getting her liscense early but I'm not. I'm more concerned with whether or not my child is safe and if she is mature enough to handle the big responsible that goes with driving than I am with being her friend or getting around easier or anything else.
I have to say that my children and I have a good relationship on the whole but it's not about pleasing them in most cases. Many situations that I have said 'no' to, the 'no' was because I was afraid that a 'yes' would get them in harms way that I couldn't fix in the end. And I hope this is true for your mother.
My daughter is continuing, very quietly, to keep the decision on my mind about when she can start studying the driving manual but she is not trying to do anything behind my back. I think your plan to go with others is a good one and is more safe than going by yourself. However, on the other side it's still your mom's decision when you get to go 'to town' and with whom.
I can tell you that when any of my chldren have tried to do anything behind my back, it didn't get them what they wanted. It made it harder for me to trust them and trust between parents and children in this day and age is most important.
So my suggestion to you is, although other parents might not make the same decision that your mom would, that you be patient and keep letting your mom SEE that you are ready to be out by your maturing behavior. My suggestion to my kids which I think has helped them, is that they think about what I would approve of before doing 'questionable' things. And the things we haven't discussed (which can't be much at this point) I think they know me well enough (we've been together forever) to know what I would approve of and what I won't.
You are 13 and I know you know how your mom feels about different things and whether you abide by that knowledge when making decisions in your mom' s absence is always going to be your decision to make. But when your parent sees that you are behaving in a mature fashion, making good decisions, then they give more and more freedom to do more and more stuff. Or at least that is the way that it should work.
I hope it does for you and your mom.
2006-10-27 09:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite mom with you.
that is the best way.
she will feel secure then.
go someplace she is willing to go.
or take someone she trusts
like an aunt, your dad, or a trusted adult friend of hers.
or a teacher to be with you.
adult guidance is needed in these situations.
pocket knife is not enough.
the fact that you think that will help shows me
you are not mature enough to go by yourself.
2006-10-27 15:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hi hi hi...no no no you really can not go specially with the knife in your pocket...better arrange something in your own area...or request any adult i ure family to give you company..If i would be your mom...never let you go...no matter what ever you do,,,,i know Dublin, its safe but not good for 13 years to go alone with friends.
2006-10-27 15:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by shahzebb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should listen to your mom. Most of the time parents have experienced something that makes them think the way that they do. If she insists that you not go,make alternative plans.
2006-10-27 15:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋