7 months ago I caught my husband with another woman, a married woman. I told her husband about the affair and they split up. Now my husband and his wife are living together and she is 6 months pregnant. During the past 7 months me and this girls husband have fallen into a relationship. We rarely talk about our ex's and he is very attentive to me. We dont talk about our feelings for each other either. We have been intimate for the past 5 months. I feel like I am in love with him but am afraid to say. Has anyone heard of a relationship brought together under circumstances like these working? I really care for him but am so afraid of getting hurt.
2006-10-27 08:12:28 · 7 answers · asked by slickgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, when one door closes, another opens. I believe everything happens for a reason, and maybe this happened to bring you guys together. I would enjoy the time you are spending together, and take it slow. You both just got out of marriages, so don't push the status of your relationship, and just enjoy each other and see where it goes. Good Luck, I think things may just work for you too!
2006-10-27 08:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by shrimpseys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is similar, but much different. But very complicated none-the-less. My suggestion to you, is to do what I do,
take every day at a time. Don't go too far ahead into the future. Enjoy your time with him for what it is, and when it is. If you start making 'plans' and making expectations, instead of just being happy, and enjoying his attention, and time.......then you set yourself up.
Both of you have gone through something really terrible, and it is a MAJOR trust breaker. He may be going through that, just as I'm sure you are. While you may have found happiness for the time being in each other.......the other situation still exists, and you aren't divorced yet.
You are both healing from a really bad thing, you both got the raw deal, but it's turning out good because you have each other. Heal first. Don't put labels, and expectations on each other. Take each day as it comes, and enjoy the joy.
2006-10-27 08:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of such things. Take things slow, though. It is possible that what you are finding is a solice with another person who shares your pain...your connection comes from that solice rather than true love.
Of course, you could also be head over heels! All I'm saying is to take it slow, very slow, to be sure that you are both in this for the right and healthiest reasons.
2006-10-27 08:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this happening before. You just need to make sure that he's not in a relationship with you to get back at his ex.
2006-10-27 08:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not going to get hurt.....simple fact because you two experience the back st-aping from your exes,,,so you both will never want that to happen to neither of you so the chance is you two will be perfect for each other....you both should send flowers to EXES to say thank you for helping you guys to meet i wish you guys the best........
2006-10-27 08:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's using you to get revenge on your husband
2006-10-27 08:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, didn't they make of movie about this?
2006-10-27 08:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by 'Cause I'm Blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋