Tuesday (Oct.31) would have been my anniversary. I have been seperated for 6 months now (not by my choice) and I don't know how I am going to make it thru the day. Please help! I'm just about in tears just typing this!
2006-10-27 08:01:47 · 21 answers · asked by blackcatmingus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Black cat,
you can do it.
Troubles don't last so long and for every cloud there is a silver lining.
I don't know why you separated and it is not important either. What you need to do is hang in there. All problems have solutions - you know what BC, this too shall pass.
He probably wasn't good enough for you, look at the brighter side of life. Maybe it was message to you that it could have been even worse, but God allowed you to separate. If he couldn't keep you, then it is not worth the time or the money.
After the storm there will be a calmness. Watch for it, don't be in a hurry it will come though, it does not pay to keep looking behind, it hinders your moving on.
Its probably a time out that you got to watch or level out your spirituality. I would do that.
Hang in there, every problem has a solution and truly if you didn't have the strength to go through all these, it would never have come your way!
I'll watch for you on November first, because I know you'll have made it!
Talk to you later girl!
2006-10-27 08:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK DEAR,it's alright to feel down & even cry.this is a difficult time for anybody going through what you are,but,please maintain your selfrespect.you are a strong lady,just cause your willing 2 look for help.
i don't want to sound religious(GOD,no),but a very good way of feeling better is to go to your back room,switch off the light & pray.there nobody can see you,hear you& even judge you.you are human& sure you spend some great times together.you can let it all out.confess things you done,to yourself & others,scream & wail,if you must,but dont leave the room until your feeling lighter.
another thing you can try is some reverse psycology.treat yourself.go shopping(or window shopping).try on what you like.if you have a picture of him,hang it on the wall and throw it with a tennisball(darts work lovely).I know that you LOVE the guy,but heck,it's his fault your feeling bad.try to get that KELLIS song "I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW" then sing along.
you,lady, are a woman.you have the power to do anything.you must decide if your going to give it to the dirt bag.
good luck & you have purpleman's prayers,for sure
purplefriend
2006-10-27 15:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by purpleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is right...do something. Don't just sit and feel sorry for yourself. If you can't afford anything else, volunteer to help at a shelter, or a food kitchen. After seeing what some people have to deal with, a broken heart may not seem so bad. You will be okay, it just takes time. NO PITY PARTIES!!
2006-10-27 15:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is the time to call some very close friends of yours
do not hesitate to share your problems with them cmmon cheer up,at least you got rid of an old hazzle in your life
stand up take a deep breath,take a bath,call some friends
have a party and what you need right now is the best counsellor of all,and thats no other than ''MR Budwiezer''
try him and ill guarantee you after 2 or 3 bottles of mr bud
he will ask you to sing your problems away
2006-10-27 15:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fill your day with activities on Tuesday. It will still be painful and you may still shed a tear or two, but it will make the day go by faster. Try to avoid your husband on that day in case you get too weepy.
2006-10-27 18:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been separated 6 months why would day bother you, if you want him back call him. If not go out have a great time aND forget the date, I'm sure he hasn't given it a 2nd thought. You need to quit feeling sorry for yourself, find someone to comfort you.
2006-10-27 15:32:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and buy the sexiest costume you can find, go out and have a great time,lf you happen to run into him all the better,show him what hes missing,he will be the one having second thoughts,then just say your really busy for awhile,he will be trying to get in touch with you,almost immediately.
2006-10-27 15:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it's Halloween Tuesday. Go out and have some fun. You'll be around a lot of people in good spirts and maybe...better yet I know you'll enjoy yourself. You might even meet someone there. Just do it!
2006-10-27 15:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Zig Zag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww i am sorry to hear that. i would do my best not to be alone on that day. the alone time will do nothing but let you stew in your sadness. go out with some friends. try focusing on the good you had behind you and the great things you have to look forward to. it is going to be a hard day no matter what. just try to make the best of it. good luck
2006-10-27 15:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like any other day, one step at a time. How you will feel on the 31st can't be any worse than what you felt when you first separated. You got through that, you can get through this too!
2006-10-27 15:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋