Over the summer, I moved in with a good friend of mine. She (30) has been with her boyfriend (28) for over a year, and although I know him and think he is okay, he can be highly obnoxious. It's not intentional, he has a personality disorder. He has very bad habits around our house, and since he is just a visitor, how can I tell her in a nice way that she needs to speak up about it, or take care of it herself?
A few of his annoying habits include:
(1) Leaves the toilet seat up.
~Hello, you're in a girls' house!
(2) Finishing the roll of toilet paper and not replacing it with a new one, just leaves the cardboard core there and puts the new roll on the sink.
(3) Leaves his dirty dishes, silverware and cups in the sink instead of putting them in the dishwasher.
~It takes 2 seconds, the dishwasher is right next to the sink!
(4) Showers at all hours of the night, walks around in a towel, or in pajama pants and a tank all the time.
~That's fine at his house, not mine!
Advice
2006-10-27 07:59:01 · 8 answers · asked by TWBensgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It does not sound like he is so bad to me...
He sounds like a typical man...
You want a man ?
Get used to him..
That is what they are like...
2006-10-27 08:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. First off... I HATE when people dont replace the toilet paper... UGH. Especially when they OBVIOUSLY know where it is and it takes not even a second of their oh so precious time.
But yeah. The only thing really you can do is sit your roomie down and explain to her that he has to respect your home; just as you would respect his if the situation were reversed... right? Even sitting both of them down would help out at least a little!!
You shouldnt have to pick up after him, hes a grown man... or at least the age of one!! He should start acting his age, definately!
2006-10-27 08:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can inform your roommate of you displeasure at his behavior, it'll be good practice and serve you well in the future. No one else in this whole wide world can require that others respect you and your personal rules and requirements. And you need to be able to do it for you. Politely, firmly, without saying "OK?" at the end, let her know that these 4 behaviors will end either by her telling the guy or you will do it. Give her a bit of time to plan her approach (a day or two will do fine) and then expect the changes to take place. These are things that ANY guest in ANY house in the world would be expected to do.
If she doesn't do it, give the list to him and if he doesn't shape up, tell him he is not welcome to visit and he'll be tespassing if he does.
You need to be able to do this for anyone who does not respect you.
2006-10-27 08:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pay your share of the rent, it is you right to tell her what you think, also if this guy is using any thing that you have to pay half of for example water, make sure he is paying his part that also goes for phone and cable
2006-10-27 08:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should talk to her but be careful in choosing your words, he's her bf and she probably loves him.. And then she'll find the right way to explain it to him in her own words, cauz she knows him better
good luck ;)
2006-10-27 08:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she doesn't put a stop to it,you are going to move in with me(-;
2006-10-27 08:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if it really bothers you talk to her. But maybe you're being anal and jelous? Boys will be boys!!...
2006-10-27 09:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by kane_rosebud 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her. If that doesn't do any good, tell his ***.
2006-10-27 08:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋