Verbally abusive relatinship,please help.?

Question

I moved out of town to be with someone I have known for years.The thing is he's a different person now that I'm here.When he's nice he's really nice and when he's nasty he's really nasty.He always listen to my phone conversations,and he snap's off for no reason.And he has this bad habbit of saying azz!If things don't go his way azz.I want to leave but don't know how.I don't think he will hurt me but I have a ten yr old daughter to.Since I've been here my truck has been stolen all kinds of things have been happening I can't find a job nothing is in my favor since I been here.Any suggestions?And no I did'nt know he was like this he was always a good person.

Answer 1

Pack your bag and tell him AZZ. He isn't worth wasting your time on. That little truck is probably sitting in a Car lot for sale by him. you better leave while leaving is good, Next thing he'll start on your little girl, he is no good.

Answer 2

You know what, the words seem to hurt more and longer than being hit. The bruise goes aways but the words stay forever, we never forget. I'm not saying being hit is any better at all, just making a statement. You kid does not need to be around that and grow up thinking it's okay for men to talk to her that way. He has obvious problems and if he's not willing to go to anger management, get the hell out as fast as you can. Your life will turn around for the better once you're gone. Trust me, been there.

Answer 3

The way you leave is to get on a Greyhound bus and go to either a friend or your family.

He may not have hit you yet, but he will. He is abusive and the abuse always gets worse. Don't ever believe that it will get better. Abuse is cyclical. There is a wheel of abuse that will explain it to you. Look at my source list. There are good times, but they are unexpectedly ended by abusive periods.

The only thing that you should do is to pack your bags while he is away from the house and get out. Go anywhere you need to go. There are also shelters for battered women. You do not have to have physical signs to be a battered woman.

Take care and GET OUT OF THERE NOW,
Troy

Answer 4

This sounds like something I've been through. My ex seemed like a good person. I got pregnant only 3 months into our relationship and he promised to take care of me, wanted me to quit work to take care of our child. Everything would be great. He tried reallyy hard to get me to move far away from everyone we knew (but I wouldn't go). As soon as my daughter was born, he became very controlling, always verbally abusive and eventually hit me. I left as soon as hit me the first time. The verbal was so bad that he had me convinced of a lot of things that weren't true. Like no one would ever date someone with a kid and I had no where to go and so on. I left with nothing and had to go on welfare and move into a reall crumby 1 bedroom apartment. It was the best thing I ever did. I didn't want my daughter to think it was okay to be treated like that. I went back to school, married a really great guy and my ex now wants nothing to do with me or his own daughter. The verbal abuse leads to much more and its a total form of control. He wants to control everything you do and sometimes I think it is a psychotic form of behaviour.

I'd leave as fast as you can.....good luck....remember: When you're hit rock bottom, you can only move up!

Answer 5

You say you have a daughter, you should have been gone. He was always being a good person to get to you, now his true side is coming out now that he has you. I have a co-work going through the same thing right now, if I hadn't witnessed it myself I wouldn't believe it. But you need to call family, friends someone to come and get you from this guy before things get worse. Good luck & God Bless!!!

Answer 6

I would get out and fast verbal abuse is usually just the beginning it in most circumstances escalates to emotional and physical abuse which isn't healthy for you or your daughter. I would've suggested the possibilty of counseling or even just letting him know how his behavior makes you feel, but with your daughter involved you should consider whats in her best interest. Seeing you being verbally abused isn't healthy for her future relationships with men especially if you tolerate it, by leaving you are showing her that you have self respect and that that kind of thing isn't acceptable in a relationship.

Answer 7

You don't need to take his BS! Get your daughter and move out...it's best for you both. I had one of these guys and I truly loved the idiot! It was so hard to move on but I knew it was the best for me. I was tired of him putting me down. What a fool I was..he will never change and he will always be miserable. Do you want to live like this? Heck no then get out..you will be much better without him. Trust me..there is so many better guys out there then him!

Answer 8

It doesn't sound like you are very happy and that means your daughter is probably not happy either. Some people change when you move in with them. I think I would find a way to leave and get your life together.

Answer 9

You need to leave him now... 9 times out of 10 - after the verbal abuse no longer works the physical abuse will start -- I speak from experience. Get out know while you still can.

Answer 10

I think that you should pack up and get you and your daughter as far away from this man as possible. You dont want your child to grow up and think that it is ok for a man to verbally abuse her and that is exactly what you are telling her by allowing this to happen to you. Get her away from this situation before he starts to verbally abuse her or even start to hit you if things dont go the way he wants them to.