well my brother is 2 years older than me, he likes to push me around when he cant't get his way, he has punched me and shoved me and kicked me, and lots more, but nothing perverted. he is really strong, and he is sixteen, (im 14). i tell my dad and mom but my dad never see's him doing it so he never gets in much trouble, and plus he lies. he really likes to embaress me in public to, (but that might be normal). can some one tell me how to stand up for myself and make my big brother stop?!?!
2006-10-27 07:45:19 · 12 answers · asked by lauren r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
also if i kick him were it counts, he will kick me were it counts, and harder than i kicked him!!!
(lots!!!)
2006-10-27 07:48:57 · update #1
he is also very strong, he works out every day, he can squat like 325, or at least i heard something like that
2006-10-27 07:50:18 · update #2
oh yes one more thing I'M A GIRL!!!!
2006-10-27 07:50:59 · update #3
talk to your parents serioulsly, explain the situation. record his actions if that is possible?. Kick him where it hurts most! (´´,). Try and avoid being with him.! he is a fool
2006-10-27 07:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by orlyandsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My big brother was JUST like that. He went so far to embaress me once he hid a tape a friend had brought over in my room n when she left he said ohh she prob stole go look in her room here, and sure enough she found it. I dont know why brothers do this.
All you can do is be patient, When I turned 17 and all his friends hit on me the tables turned, and instead of hurting me, he wanted to protect me.
He is being immature and in time he will grow up and stop this behaviour. Try to stay out of his way as much as you can is the best advice I can give. If you have a webcam, you could also set it up to record some of his behaviour n show your parents so they can deal with him
Good luck.
2006-10-27 14:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a mindless bully.
you could try a different approach with your parents.
especially your mom.
make a normal conversation with her at a time when you don't feel angry. ask her how your dad treats her. then ask her how she would feel if your dad was rough with her, then ask her how she would feel if your dad ridiculed her in front of other people.
then remind her that's how your brother treats you.
you won't get far trying to get a response each time your brother hurts you, so this approach may be more effective.
opening a dialogue on the subject may encourage your parents to talk to your brother about his general attitude towards females.
2006-10-27 15:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell u this....i am five years older than my brother and use to bully him ALL the time. I knew he was scared of me and loved every minute of it. Then one day he knocked fire out of me and i never laid a hand on him again. Kick him in the private as hard as u can ...then if you get in trouble tell your parents how tired you were of him hurting you ....its worth the spanking..trust me...
2006-10-27 14:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by careful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you react to what he is doing the more he will do it. It is normal the way he is acting.. proving he is bigger and stronger than his little brother. He will hopefully out grow it soon and if not, talk to your parents again and again till they listen and do something before he hurts you bad.
2006-10-27 14:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this problem also. i would either sit down with my parents and have a VERY serious talk (no whine-ing) or talk to my school couseler about it. if your parents won't step up to the plate, find someone who will be an adult! and not chicken out. do you have a history of lying or something? your parents are not doing their job...
2006-10-27 14:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by lovybunny18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that your older bro is being abusive and your parents do not or (choose not to) see this abusive behavior then you need to go to a school counsoler I do understand how you feel I have been there myself it is ok to tell on him if you want to talk by all means call me @1 (972)207-9109
2006-10-27 14:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by shadow1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run to your dad or mom when he is about to hurt you and then they can see what he dose! My older brother is like that. (im 14 hes 20!!) I lernd to run to my parents when he did that! Or never go around him.
GoOd LuCk!!!!!!!
2006-10-27 14:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOmetimes it pays to just avoid your big brother.Like go play with your friends and stay away from him for a few hours.Maybe this will help!Good luck kid!
2006-10-27 14:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn self defence...n try to fight back by mental tricks....use ur brain power against his masculine power...i always do dat...n my bro never irritates me becuase of dat..best of luck!!
2006-10-27 14:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋