Are you in one? Do you like it? Does it work for you? Pro and cons?
2006-10-27 07:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by That 70's girl 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes I am in one.
I love it.
It works extremely well for both of us.
Pros:
Enhanced communication and honesty
Additional emotional security (I never worry that she will leave me for someone else)
Peace of knowing that we both have the relationship we want, we are not miserable in a socially mandated mongamous mold
Cons:
Getting crap from people who are not poly and know nothing about it
Occasional jealousy (more rare as time goes by)
2006-10-27 09:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in a triad, we left each other on good terms. It worked very well, but we had a a death...and things like that just happen you know? The pros...hehe honestly if you are feeling horny there is almost ALWAYS someone up for the job...you have a way of dealing wiht issues that aren't just "You and Me" bu "US" and can be worked out that way..the cons? These relationships honestly take more work the a "normal" diad relationship...more talking...more rules and boundries but also...more love. And thats why I miss it, the love.
2006-10-28 06:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by essexsrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I am in one, yes I enjoy it, yes it works for me.
I have basically never been, or for any length of time been in a monogamous relationship.
The thing that defines a polyamorous relationship is that everyone involved knows about, and agrees to, everyone else's involvement.
If you are married, and you have a girlfriend that your wife doesn't know about, or that your wife suspects but isn't sure about, or that your wife knows about but isn't happy with, you're not poly, you're cheating. Similarly, if you're banging the milkman while your husband is out of town, you're not poly, you're cheating.
Polyamory is defined by informed consent of all the participants. Without it, it ain't poly. If you can't invite your lover over to Thanksgiving dinner with the rest of your family because you don't want anyone to know what you're doing, it probably ain't poly.
here is a great deal more info on this link, to help you understand what, and how and such.
http://www.xeromag.com/fvpoly.html
2006-10-27 14:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a counselor for alternative to christian religions I have found that the Polygamous relationships don't work if they are open. The closed triads work really well. But open relationship mess up about 85% of the time. (More like 98% based upon those I've counseled but I know other clergy that have counseled some that are still working)
2006-10-27 14:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by The Druid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in them and they worked for us at the time. I've also been in monogamous relations that worked fine. I've seen working triads. I've seen, though rarely, working open relationships, usually with a bi-sexual man and women who abstain from outside hetero contact but are both free to indulge in same-sex activity. It all depends on the honesty and commitment of all parties involved, if it involves lies then it's not polyamory, just cheating. The ones that fail are usually where one person want to be free to fool around but expects the other to be totally faith full. Pros and cons are entirely up to the individuals involved, Humans are to complex and varied for any kind of meaning full generalizations or hard-and-fast rules.
2006-10-27 16:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but i did see a show about all this on Tyra yesterday. I myself am a one person type of person. I believe in soul mates and if you can't get what you need from one person and have to go to several than you should just take the time to find someone else. I think it is more glorified because of sexual reasons and it is natural for people to be curious, but I doubt any thing long term has ever came of it because it is natural to be jealous and want all the love and all the attention. I would never think about bringing a male into my female relationship.
That is just my thoughts, who am I.
2006-10-27 15:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Indiana Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I once was, a long time ago. I had a relationship with two guys at the same time. It didn't work for us, for them there was jealousy and for me it was to complicated.
For some others it works out fine.
2006-10-27 15:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wont let me. Im kidding, I think must work for some people but I just think they are scared of getting involved completely with someone.
Oh no no no no not for me.
2006-10-27 14:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by pixilated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wish I was. Are you willing to be part of my test group?
2006-10-27 14:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no thanks the std testing alone would be too time consuming
2006-10-27 14:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋