because last night i got in a bad fight with my boyfriend and I am so upset. so like please help me cheer up or something i dont know what to do i can't focus on work! my boyfriend lies to me about what he's doing and we've been going out for 2 and a half years already! i'm scared he might be cheating or wanting to cheat : (
2006-10-27 07:27:55 · 26 answers · asked by iHEARTjuicy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i'm not so much wanting to cry anymore i'm really angry because its frustrating when i try to solve things when i'm calm and he doesnt answer his phone on purpose and then I get all angry again!
2006-10-27 07:51:34 · update #1
ok what im really asking is can you CHEER ME UP cuz im stuck at work, i just wanted to tell you why i was upset so you wouldnt be askin...
2006-10-27 07:52:49 · update #2
Take my advice: Do NOT let it affect your work. Would you want to get fired over it? Because that's what will happen if you let it get to you and you can't focus on work. Deal with it later. If you seriously think he's cheating, talk to him. If he's too quick on the defensive, then he probably has something to hide. Otherwise he will laugh instead and ask how you came up with such a crazy idea. Pay close attention to his reaction after you CALMLY ask him about it. Then you will know. But again, DO NOT LET IT GET TO YOU AT WORK.
2006-10-27 07:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to cry when I am at work, too. However you must force yourself to focus on your job.
I am sorry that you and bf had a fight, but it is not the end of the world for you. Calm down and focus on the good things about the bf. Don't dwell on the negative things. You don't know what is going through his head right now. He may not be as angry as you think.
As for the cheating, there is nothing you can do about that. It is a decision that he will make and you cannot change his mind. It is out of your control. When you are calm enough to talk to him, tell him about your concerns. After 2-1/2 years of dating you should have good enough communication that you can ask him things like this.
2006-10-27 14:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was little my grandma used to say to me that I should never run after a boy or a tram because the next minute another one will come by.
Now, joke apart, the advice is more or less accurate. Crying won't help your relationship, nor will loosing your job. If you have friends, watch how they keep their boyfriends, how they act with them, how they respond to them and what happens in the relationship. If you like the results, follow the behaviour.
That is the best pratical advice I can give: learn from real life and if you can, avoid making the mistakes others do.
It is dangerous to stay in a relationship, if your partner is cheating. The risk of STDs has increased considerably. The other day I read on yahoo news that the US Government was considering mandatory HIV testing on any medical check-up because the supposed number of unknowing carriers was estimated to be 9 times higher than the official reccords. Other diseases (e.g. hepatitis B&C)
Watch out for your health.
Last and not least have fun. One should never loose her sense of humor - search for jokes with google, buy a feminist or a 'rules' book on Amazon (they are always fun to read when one is a bit down), joing a comedy class to have fun in a group being a comic, go out with friends and invest in a swiming pool subscription (a little workout keeps the endorphines high and gives us a wonderfully shaped body - swimming does miracles *source - my own experience). I also considered a nice treat for myself when I bought a book on etiquette or one on manipulation, persuassion techniques, etc.
Hope this helps
2006-10-27 14:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by gymnopedia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have TOTALLY been in this situation AT WORK. I had a boyfriend that cheated on me TWICE, and both times I found out I was AT WORK. I actually found out at work that he was trying to cheat on me right then. I know it is sooooooooo hard to focus and you can't get anything accomplished when you are thinking about a million things. I would try to see if someone can cover for you for the rest of the day, or tel lyour boss you dont feel good and hopefully you can leave. Thats what i had to do, becuz its not fiar to customers or you to be how you're feeling. I would go home and rest up..maybe write a little bit about what you wanna say to him..then when you feel a little better give him a call or meet up with him and let him know how you feel. Good Luck sweetie!!!
2006-10-27 14:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by valleygirl1828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad for you, then you probably aren't doing anybody any favours by toughing it out at work. You should look after you. When is the last time that you took off a little time from work, & played hooky?
Go shopping, or do something else that gives you a little joy.
As far as he is concerned, don't be sad, get MAD.
He's just a boyfriend, so if being with him is making you more miserable than happy, then DUMP HIM. If he's cheated, or lied to you, then he's not worth your time, or this fretting that you are doing to yourself right now.
So say to yourself, "I am done with him, & that's that" Don't worry about getting closure with him right this minute, you'll have plenty of time to do that later. It's Friday dammit so go tell your boss that you aren't feeling up to staying at work, & go buy a pair of shoes or something.
Have Fun.
2006-10-27 14:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is cheating on you do you really want to be involved with someone like that! I was with someone for over 5 years....Listen- U can still meet someone else....Sit down and have a long talk with your BF if he's not willing to tell you the truth or if you really feel something isn't right I would take a break from him and try to move on...Life is too short to be wasting with someone like that....you don't need to feel that way- Also, a female's intuition is usually always right! Good Luck!
2006-10-27 14:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by Alesha W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to really think about what you want to do here. The relationship doesn't sound like one of trust, and I can see there's a big lack of communication going on. Cry and release all the tension and strain that you feel - then make those big decisions you know are coming your way. Good luck!
2006-10-27 14:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that he is cheating on you? you saw it yourself? if not then why are you worried? Stop thinking of the worst!
If so. then you need to leave him, he is just beginning to realize something. Two and a half of year? WOW!!! I cant believe that he would lie to you like that. He said that he loves you right? I am not talking about two days ago, I am talking about after the fight and all, He'll say I am sorry later on. If he does that then he will prove to you that he does love you.
2006-10-27 14:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by i.d.k.u. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i understand that your upset because i just went through the same thing on Monday, except i was the shitty boyfriend. Ne way, you can't be mad at ur self, its not your fault. He's an asshole and you should leave him and find someone that treats you better. it may take some time but it'll happen
2006-10-27 14:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Blake S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont upset ur self over something ur not sure about..the best thing is to ask him..he will not tell right away..but if he tells u he's cheating leave him..he doesn't deserve u!!
take a deep breath and try to cheer up XD
2006-10-27 14:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by RoobZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋