Hello i already have a three month old baby who i love but my bf wants another already! im only 13 and i am planning on having more kids but i've only just had a baby he doesnt understand this is an impossible and stupid idea what do you think i should do ?
2006-10-27 07:20:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hes a Year older .... YES IM 13 im not that stupid to lie about stuff like this . i have only had sex once and i got pregnant from it im asking for advice on telling him no not on what you think of me and my baby which i can remind you im the best mother possible to her i love her so much and i may be young but i aint stupiud and i aint irresponsible!
2006-10-27 07:27:05 · update #1
I wil NEVER EVER give my baby up and my parents are the best parents every they have never encouraged me to have this baby but have supported me still!
2006-10-27 07:29:02 · update #2
I wil NEVER EVER give my baby up and my parents are the best parents every they have never encouraged me to have this baby but have supported me still!
2006-10-27 07:29:06 · update #3
Hello Darlin...
Tell Him No he obviously doesnt understand the stress your under so tell him what you feel bout it all and then baby he will understand good luck.x
2006-10-28 02:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by mommy2dil and kacey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you are 13 and already have 1. I'm sorry, but I'm guessing your bf is one of those much older men who haven't grown up and is trying to fill some kind of void by dating children and having children. You can't possibly get the magnitude of parenthood after 3 months, it is a major responsibility that takes over your life. You haven't even had a chance to live at 13. This guy is very selfish if he doesn't see that he has taken away your chance to grow up and now wants to dump more responsibility on you, UGH. Sorry, but I've been there before, except I was 17 luckily, I can't imagine being there at 13. Please take some advice and live your life before you start creating others. There is so much out there that you don't even know about yet. I hope you look into your life and your relationship and do what is right for your child right now. That baby deserves all your love and attention and shouldn't be cast aside for another one, even your boyfriend.
2006-10-27 07:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ferosia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents about this, tell them whats going on. I know that he is the father of you baby but he can not make you have another baby. Girl you need to be able to have fun yourself and be a teenager. He will not be there in a few years. He will see all his friends having fun and want to join them. I'm 26 with a two year old and when her dad and I divorced I no longer had a life. He goes on trips and parties all the time, but I can't because I have to stay home and care for the baby. Its not fare but it happens everyday to all ages. The mother more often then not will be the one to make the sacrifices. Do what ever you have to but don't let him talk you in to that , your body is not ready and do you really want to take time from you first child to have to raise another. Let the first one be a baby for alittle while.
2006-10-27 07:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are only 13. It woudn't be wise for you or a baby for you to try to have another one at that age. Your body is still growing and developing for itself and after one baby, it is going to need quite a bit of time to recover. It is good you are planning to have more kids later down the road, but even for a grown woman, three months isn't always enough to heal all the way. They experts suggest at least 2 years. But for you, even then you should wait. You aren't old enough to handle more kids...hey, some women can't do one at 30! Maybe he needs to speak to a health care providor, so that he can get a professional's opinion. Otherwise, he will never understand. I am glad you love your baby, but he shouldn't have put you in that situation at 13 anyway...there is so much for you to still do in life. Don't let him ruin it for you. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-10-27 07:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him for now you have enough on your plate. It is too soon, and you are too young to be thinking of more. Can you even support the one you have now on your own? I hate to be negative, but you are so young now, what happens if he leaves you? Imagine how hard it would be to raise 2 kids on you own. If you just want to buy some time tell him you talked to your Dr. and he said at your age it was unhealthy to have anymore kids right now. Your body NEEDS at least one full year to heal itself, no matter what your age, before having another baby. PLEASE, don't let him talk you into it!!! The first couple of months are always easy, it only gets harder form here. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-27 07:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST SAY NO! You might consider telling him HELL NO!!! You are luckier than most kids your age. Please thank your parents for taking care of your baby and yourself. You all have taken on a huge responsibility. Is your boyfriend helping to take care of the baby you have now? If I were you I would wait until I am much older and married before I had another baby.
2006-10-27 07:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Lanita H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are 13 - he should be in jail (or juvy)
you have no business having babies
No 13 year old on the face of the earth is fully equipped to be a parent.
The idea of another one is beyond comprehension. What is he doing? Breeding so he can show off his manhood? You are not too bright and he is downright scary.
How are the 2 of you supporting your little family? Not at all, I would guess.
2006-10-27 07:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its very stupid having more kids at 13 dont throw your life away more Im 18 and I have a 10 month old daughter and Im 18wks pregnant today so that makes me 4 mos. and 2wks prego please tell him no. Its very hard being pregnant and raising another baby.Take birth control. thats my suggestion. My husband is not with me at the moment so im very much on my own he is in jail so if he leaves you it will be hard as for me being alone 4 months and it is hard. Believe me.
2006-10-27 07:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he needs a baby tell him he needs to teach some type of dedication, placed your self in cost. if he already has young children from a previous marriage you may want to wish to confirm if he has dedication subject matters till now you go and performance a baby with him. not something on your existence must be more effective important than your baby so certainly placed some severe idea into this till now you're making your very last decision.
2016-12-05 07:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that u should what at lest till your out of high school if ur going still
if not tell him that if he is going to support u with money for the babys if u have another one.
he might want a baby boy that is why he wants u to have a kid!!
2006-10-27 07:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold off hun!
Your body isn't gonna be ready to have another until at least 2 years. And it is hard to have 2 in diapers. And at 13, your body was not ready to have the first, Your boyfriend needs to understand that. Have your parents talk to him if you are too afraid to do so, and get some birth control PRONTO!
2006-10-27 07:24:44 · answer #11 · answered by OOgaCHucka 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋