Every Friday of Saturday evening my son and I hit the town. We leave mommy at home to relax and we go to Chapters. It's a chain of bookstores here in Canada and in it there are usually a Starbucks coffee. My son it 7 years old and when we sit down and have a tea and cookies he will attract the attention of a woman. On two occasions I got to talking with two different women and when I mentioned that my wife was at home chilling out that quickly ended the conversation and went back to reading. I wasn't hitting on them because I'm very happy with my wife but why end a conversation abruptly because I'm married?
My wife says it's because women like a man that is good with children and when they find out I'm married they lose interest. Is she right?
2006-10-27 07:18:17 · 16 answers · asked by St.Anger 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should mention that in both cases the women mentioned that my son was cute and I just thanked them and the conversation ensued from there. In both cases i told my wife and she got a kick out of it because after being together 15 years through major health problems and deaths she know I am not going anywhere. In both caes I never neglected my son and included him in the conversation because he's more important than any woman I could ever meet in a bookstore.
I thought I needed to clarify that.
Funny the way people jump to conclusions.
2006-10-27 07:51:57 · update #1
The women are assuming you are a single parent. Or you are divorce and have your son for a weekend visit. My husband of 26 years gets hit on when just him and our son go out together. I send them off to the movies or to just have Father and Son time, and he gets approach quite a bit.
Most of my single friends assures this is usually the typical man with a child theory. So, if you don't want to get hit on, bring the wife. You are a sitting duck. A man who loves kids, and single, my goodness..the women thought they hit the jack pot. If you don't like the women approaching you, make sure you wear a wedding band. Then again for some this isn't a reason to back off.
Hey, it should be flattering that you still got it. Your wife is a very lucky woman, she's got a nice looking husband, who give her some free time to herself, and he promises her and the world that nothing would ever tear them apart. I hope you have many many years of happiness.
2006-10-27 09:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's true. I'm a married woman but I find men attractive who are spending time and interacting well with their children. Like if I'm gracery shopping and I see a man grocery shopping with his kids. It makes me warm inside. There appeal level automatically goes up. It has all sorts of implications about the kind of man that he is like: he's a good husband because he's taken his kids out and giving his wife time alone, he's doing the grocery shopping (again, giving his wife a break), he loves his kids, etc.
This happens to my husband as well. When I've gone over a couple isles in the store and come back, I've found him and my five year old son talking with a nice looking women who I can tell is scoping THEM out (I'm including my son in this because his eyes get a lot of comments from grown women).
You're not looking to hook up with any of these women, are you? I sure hope not. Just enjoy the attention. I don't think there's any harm in having a conversation with someone in Starbuck's as long as that's all that's going on.
Why does this never happen to me as a mom and a wife?????
2006-10-27 07:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yepper. These women were watching you with your son and thinking how good you were with him would hopefully translate to their kids and then when you mention the wife, they decide its not worth the trouble. It may seem rude to you, but seriously look out for the women who doesn't stop talking when you mention the wife. She's the one you really want to look out for. I have a friend who rather enjoys trying to pry married men from their wives. You don't want to even have the appearance of being mixed up with one of them. The women who stop talking to you are not necessarily being rude, they just feel like you are now unattainable and that is the way you should want to keep it.
2006-10-27 07:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by hbennett76 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, pretty much. They are probably women who are divorced and looking for another divorced person to hook up with. They see you as a great catch because you could be a single dad who enjoys doing stuff with his son, a very attractive attribute.
I think you are an excellent husband!!!!! Your wife is definitely lucky to have you!!!! Other husbands should take notice and learn.
2006-10-27 07:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely she is right. And I get the feeling you really go to get the attention; hence, the reason you bring your son along. Men with kids is the same as men with dogs - it attracts the ladies. If I were you, I'd consider having your wife join you on these outings every once and a while - it's good to do things as a family.
2006-10-27 07:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why would i end abruptly? i woulnt just end it if were single i would more or less state
hey i don't want you to read anything into this! i wasn't sure if your married and i don't want to look like a home wreaker so if it's cool with you and your son i would perfer to not be around you both who knows what is going threw "pointing to kids head" you have a great day!
I just guess most people are not as forward as I
but mainly it's not that they lose intrest it's because they don't want to stuf fyour kids head with oh it's okay for dady to go hang out with the chicks he is 7 who knows how he is taking it!
that would be my guess!
2006-10-27 07:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is right. More importantly you are an example to your son, be careful what you do because he is constantly learning from your life and how you handle yourself. You don't have to be unfriendly but sitting and having conversations with strangers is pointless.
2006-10-27 07:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually the women are doing the rite thing - walking away from a married man instead of trying to steal and/or seduce him.
2006-10-27 07:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know if you told me you were married after we started a conversation, i would definitely end it because what you are telling me is that you are spoken for.
2006-10-27 07:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because these women are out looking for a man, It's as simple as that.
2006-10-27 07:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋