What do Iranian women think about marrying American men?

Question

Do Iranian parents allow their daughters to marry Western men (specifically, Americans)...or are they always supposed to marry a man chosen by their fathers? Are Iranian women allowed to date before marriage or does this also pose an issue?

Answer 1

One of my good friends was from Iran and never went back, due to the 1979 revolution. He never told his parents he was in love w/a non-Muslim woman, as they would have had fits, he said. Later, he married an old-money WASP from Maine, and sure as hell did NOT tell his folks! His parents were rural farmers, so maybe they were more conservative. I don't know. If they'd get that upset about a SON, I doubt they'd be more tolerant toward a daughter!

Some people refer to Iranian as a "race", which it is NOT! It is a nationality, if you live in Iran, or a cultural group, if your family is from there, just as being Israeli or Norwegian is not a "race".
Many Iranians have other racial and cultural mixtures, due to successive invasions over centuries, such as that of the Mongols in the mid 12th Century (3) and earlier, Greeks. Mongolians may be considered part of a race (Asian), while most Middle-easterners and Greeks are considered "Caucasian". During the Mongol invasion, most Muslims were slaughtered, devastating both the culture and the racial makeup. That is why many people living in Eastern Iran and areas like modern-day Kazakhstan (formerly part of the U.S.S.R.) resemble those of Central Asia

If you do a search on racial/ethnic history of Iran, you may come up with the answer to both issues (race and role of marriage). The venusproject (1), is a political site, which, among other things, bashes "racial profiling" and advocates eliminating the oppression of women around the world.

Another site at answers.com says that the majority of Iran consists of Persians (derived from Greek ancestry) but "The main ethno-linguistic minority groups in Iran include the Azaris, Kurds, Georgians, Arabs, Baluchis, Turkmen, Armenians, and Assyrians. The tribal groups include the Bakhtiaris, Khamseh, Lurs, Qashqai, as well as others."(2)

It's worth noting that the current Iranian government disagrees with this, in an attempt to unite the various ethnic groups.

Still another informative site, everyculture.com, urges Iranian-Americans to only marry within their religion and culture, to strengthen it. (4) So, you don't need to be living in Iran to experience pressure from members of your racial or religious background to marry within the culture (as some answers here have shown). This holds true for many different cultures and religions, not just Iranian or Islamic ones.

Answer 2

Persian American Women

Answer 3

Iranian women usually view american men as beta and unattractive tbh due to most of them being fat. American women seem to love Iranian men though. Haha

Answer 4

Never knew of this to happen. But, I know at least a dozen Iranian men who are married to Americans.

Answer 5

it's not like that.
I live in Iran and whole my family are Iranian.
I've been dating an Iranian guy for 4 years and I still do and my parents both know about it. It's not OK to all my people but it is to most of them.
We don't have racism here so it's OK to most families if their daughter date some non-persian guy! but they need to know who he is,where is he from and etc like in other countries.
we are not Arabs and we NEVER had this culture of marrying someone we don't know.
our father don't choose us husbands. They help us know men better not make us marry someone we've never met.

Answer 6

Hi , im half Iranian, half dutch and its no problem to marry American people and i dont think Iranian fathers will choose a man for there daughter , its so outdated.
Yes they are allowed to date but not in Iran, i think

Answer 7

That's a good question

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Without playing games, don’t be available 100% of the time or let your life be an open book. A man that comes on too strong or doesn’t have outside interests will scare a woman away just as much as it would if the circumstances were reversed. Read here http://AttractAnyWoman.emuy.info/?3gM6

Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.

Answer 10

I think that parents universally want their daughters to marry a man of their own race. that's human nature