I am currently pregnant and married. My husband is out of the picture and was before i got pregnant. I am sure the child is not his. I want anyones advice as to wait and get a divorce after the child is born or before. I have contacted the courthouse and they said either way he would have to ask and pay for a paternity test. I dont want anything from him except a divorce. I had found out though after he left he had been cheating on me and continued after he left. This makes things a definite divorce i dont want and try to work things out its been almost a year since we have even talked. I need thoughts on what to do
2006-10-27 07:04:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I dont believe it will carry my husbands last name because i will have the other man place on the Birth certificate if possible and it would carry his last name.
2006-10-27 07:15:57 · update #1
The sooner the better if you ask me. I don't think the courts will hold anything against you for being pregnant with another man's child, especially since he cheated on you! I don't know why he would HAVE to ask for a paternity test. It seems like if you weren't even sleeping together when you got pregnant, then he would have no reason to ask for one. But, maybe it's optional since you two are technically still married. Good luck with everything. I've been through divorce and it's not fun, even if you know it's the best thing to do.
2006-10-27 07:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by LIl One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the physical world - WOW what a mess HUH? i'm so sorry for your situation - sometimes we make choices that we wish could be undone (husband, divorce) - but i can give you an anwer that WILL 100% steer you in all the right ways - from rainsing Your baby to the husband ordeal -
Jesus Christ is the answer - Pray - i mean literally right now - ask the Lord to help you and show you the way - and i am going to do the same just as soon as i get through typing this to you -I Promise Jesus is a guarantee answer- He will show you some way some how - what to do - God Bless and keep Praying
2006-10-27 07:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Toni C *prayer is the answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I dont think if this really makes a difference. You want a divorce and the child is not his. If you have been separated for at least a year and can prove it (show income tax returns) this should be a quickie divorce and the child does not have to be involved. I would suggest that you do it before the child is born, and get it done as soon as possible.
2006-10-27 07:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by socialworker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want any type of support from your soon to be ex-husband, I would think that it does not matter when you file for divorce. Either way it is kind of a bad deal, you don't really want to be dealing with divorce proceedings when you are pregnant or have a newborn child. I don't think there is any legal advantage or disadvantage to before or after the birth of the child.
2006-10-27 07:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really confused, what we have here is 2 people that are both cheaters, one got caught and the other didn't. a lawyer can answer all your concerns. your last name is the one the hospital will use for the little one, you have nothing to say about it. if you are still married when the baby is born your husband will be named the father. if he is or not.
2006-10-27 07:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still legally married when the baby is born, won't it carry your husband's last name? Something to think about....
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2006-10-27 07:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋