Miscarriage questions...?

Question

I have a few questions. I went to get an emergency ultrasound cuz the doctor couldn't get a heartbeat. They said that they baby wasn't alive. I was supposed to be 12 weeks. Baby died at 7. I had a missed miscarriage, they called it.

My questions...since the baby is still inside me, they said I could have a D&C done or let nature take it's course.

Does anyone have any experience with either or these procedures? If you had a D&C, what was done & how was your recovery? Are you still able to have kids now?

If you let the baby come out naturally, was it painful? Did you have to have a D&C anyways becuz not everything came out? How long did it take before the pain stopped? How long did you bleed?

I'm scared. Please, kind answers only. I had 2 previous pregnancies & both kids are fine & there were never any complications. I really don't understand any of this. Thank you in advance.

Thank you all. You've eased my fears greatly about both ways to do this. It means a lot to me.

Answer 1

Hello baby,
I'm so sorry for your loss first of all. I do think you should get the D&C. It is just a light scrapping of your uterus. usually all you feel afterward is cramping just like a period. when I had one I didn't even spot afterwards. I think this is better because you will not have to constantly change pads and think of your loss each time you do. Good luck sweety...

Answer 2

I have had two miscarriages neither of them did I have to have a D & C. My first miscarriage I was much further along than you I was 17 weeks, it was very painful and I bled for 3 months, my second one was like having a period but I was only 5 weeks.

Both times if I had not already lost the baby the doctor said a D & C was the best way, beacuse as you said you have to make sure everything is gone or you can get infections and more.

I personally would go with whatever the doctor recomends they know what truly is best for you and your body. It is very scary and hard to cope with. I hope you have a good support system! It takes time to get past all of it and in truth you never do get fully past it (sorry to say that)

If you want to have more children it is possible, its scary because anything out of the orinary and you are going to stress. Im speaking from experience. I have two beautiful children and a third on the way, all this happened after my misscariages.

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

i am sorry for your loss.

I will tell you about my two miscarriages last year.

Aug 2005 there was no heartbeat at 8 weeks. The doctor let me make the decision to do the D&C or let nature take it's course. The idea of carrying around a dead baby was to upseting to me so i opted for the D&C. The procedure was quick, i was released within a few hours. however the pain afterwards was awful and it took me almost a week to fully recover. I do recommend you take whatever pain meds they offer you.

Dec 2005 i had a miscarriage and bled out. I didn't know i had miscarried until i had already started bleeding. the healing time was quicker and less painful, but i felt more emotionally drained at that time.

depends on what you are more willing to handle. bleeding out was a bit scarier, but the D&C took longer to recover.

i hope this helped somewhat.

Answer 4

A D&C is a "dilation and Curettage" (forgive me if spelling's wrong). But I had one when I miscarried. What happens is that the ob-gyn puts you to sleep, dilate your cervix to go up into your uterus, and uses a vacuum/suction device to remove the miscarriage. It takes about 45 minutes, tops. One you awaken from the anesthesia, you will feel cramping, sort of like menstrual cramps. This is because the cervix is closing back up gradually. After about 48 hours, you should be able to go back to your normal routine. You will still be able to have kids, but you will more than likely be in the "high risk" category. That only means that you will be monitored more closely than normal, like seeing the ob-gyn every 3 weeks, instead of every month until you are far enough along that your risks of miscarriage are minimal. Letting nature take its course is another option, but I chose not to do that simply because of the emotional strain involved. You would have to wait until your body got ready to expel the miscarriage. You would still have the labor pains as if your were really giving birth. I guess, in a way, you are, but the idea of carrying around a deceased baby that would be born not looking at all like a baby (based on your gestational age), would just be too much for me. I just had the D&C and got it over with. I, too, had a healthy baby prior to my miscarriage, and went on to have another healthy baby after the miscarriage. Good luck and God bless with your decision. I hope this helps ease your fears a lilttle.

Answer 5

My wife and I went throught the almost exact same situation earlier this year. The doctor suggested we wait and let the fetus come out naturally. If you have the procedure done, it may cause complications getting pregnant again. You will start bleeding more and more as it gets ready to fall out. Like a super heavy period. Cramping will worsen as well. You will know when it's time because the cramping will be severe and the bleeding will be extremely heavy. Lots of blood clots will come out, and then eventually the fetus. Sorry to bear bad news, but it is quite painful both emotionally and physcially. My prayers are with you. My wife and I are currently trying to get pregnant again, and you will be able too. Good luck!

Answer 6

I am very sorry that you have to go through this. I have had 2 previous miscarriages, but in my situation there was no baby, just the gestional sac. There will be cramping and it can be painful.

If you doctor is allowing you the choice, the baby might not have been developed enough and therefore may be reabsorbed into your body...then you would have something like a heavy period with cramping. A D&C is only necessary if your body is unable to get rid of everything (sorry for the words, they sound awful).

Good Luck and everything will work out in the end.

Answer 7

Sorry for your loss, I had a miscarriage a little over 2 years ago. They sent me home to let nature take its course but I started having severe contractions a min. apart so went back to the hospital and they put me to sleep and gave me a D&C. I just had to take it easy the day that I got it done. I didn't have any pain afterwards, and was able to do what ever I wanted to the next day. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Oh btw I am 7 months pregnant now with a healthy baby boy.

Answer 8

My wife experienced 3 miscarriages between the birth of my son, and my daughter three years later.

Early on a miscarriage will be like a very heavy period. We lost twins at 4-1/2 months. It was painful both physically, emotionally and spiritually. You may want to find some support from other's who have miscarried as it is a very real loss. To see a live set of twins one day on an ultrasound and the next day no long alive was devastating to both my wife and myself.
Our hearts and prayers are with you.

Answer 9

i had a miscarriage at 4 mths i lost the baby naturally not through choice though it just happened and it was too late to stop it.
it was horrible it was like being in labour severe stomach cramps and everything. i lost everything at the time so didnt need a d&c but given the option i think id opt for a d&c you can be sedated for the procedure so you dont feel anything at the time just a bit tender after. also i bled for about 4wks after.
sorry for your lose hope all work out in the future.

Answer 10

When I lost both of mine, they were around the same age as yours. I'm so sorry, honey. I did not have to have a D&C on either one. It all happened naturally. I had no pain, physically, at least. It took a couple weeks or so for the bleeding to stop.
Allow yourself to grieve, use your support system and take time to let yourself heal physically and emotionally. There are a lot of us who ahve gone thru this, so lean on your "sisters".
Good luck